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                                Apologizing like a Japanese woman: A practical guide                               

                                           
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All couples fight. But what separates a good couple from a bad couple is that with a good couple, someone will usually step up and apologize before the awkward atmosphere devours their relationship whole.
Today we’d like to share several tactics that Japanese women apparently employ to apologize to their boyfriends when they’re in the wrong.

We’ve categorized them according to the severity of the fault committed and supplemented them with photographs for your reference. We hope that they will be useful for men dating Japanese women and women who wish to work a bit of Japanese humility into their repertoire or apologies.
■Level 1: The “Tehe-pero”
Example situations: You passed gas in front of your boyfriend; you left rice in the rice cooker without turning it on

“Tehe-pero” is a portmanteau of the Japanese onomatopoeias for an embarrassed giggle, “tehe”, and sticking out one’s tongue, “pero”. It refers to giggling cheekily and then sticking out your tongue after making a trivial mistake.
Many Japanese women instinctively use “tehe-pero” after a harmless slip up to secure their boyfriend’s forgiveness. “Tehe-pero” is an excellent way to leverage your cuteness and often leaves boyfriends wondering why they were upset in the first place.
■Level 2: The Regular Apology
Example situations: The dinner you made tasted like feet; you were to late to your date by an hour or less

With your eyes cast downward, bend your upper body forward slightly and say you’re sorry. The Regular Apology should work for most repairable mistakes and mishaps.
■Level 3: The 45-Degree Bow
Example situations: You were caught sending questionable text messages with the opposite sex; you broke an object of sentimental or economic value belonging to your boyfriend

With your head lowered, bend your body forward 45 degrees and sincerely apologize for what you have done. Be sure to maintain the position until you have been forgiven. Tears may help to expedite this process.
■Level 4: The Dogeza, or “Kowtow”
Example situations: You were caught having an affair; you threw your boyfriend’s dog out on the balcony and locked it out because it was being loud

Dogeza is the Japanese custom of kneeling on the ground and bowing so as one’s head touches the floor. It is often used to express deep apology or when making an earnest request of someone.
When there’s no mistaking that their boyfriend is furious and they are at fault, many Japanese women first turn to dogeza to appeal for forgiveness. You should drop to the floor and enter the dogeza position the moment you see your boyfriend. With your head pressed against the ground, swear to him that you will never do something like this again.
■Level 5: The Nigerian Dogeza
Example situations: You gambled away all your boyfriends savings in futures trading; you registered your boyfriend in a cult without his permission.

The Nigerian Dogeza is effective for when you’ve done something that could (and probably should) result in a lawsuit or time in prison. Whatever you say will likely end sending your boyfriend into an inferno of rage and so your best bet is to silently maintain the position until he either forgives you in exasperation or calls the police.

Original article, photos: Heiko EdajimaPhotos: RocketNews24
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 Author| Post time 1-10-2014 01:23 AM | Show all posts
Professional sorry sayers of JapanStar Desk

It's not easy to apologise, and most people would like to avoid it entirely if possible. Well, it turns out it is possible, if you happen to live in Japan. They have these 'apology agencies' through which you could simply pay someone to say sorry on your behalf.
By hiring an expert, not only do you get to avoid the discomfort, you also make sure that the person gets a proper apology. These agencies train their employees to handle things based on the gravity of the situation. These people are professionals, and it looks like they can get you out of all sorts of sticky situations.
These businesses are doing pretty well for themselves. About 40 percent of their customer base is believed to be female, between the ages of 20 and 40 years. Some of the most popular reasons for approaching apology agencies are problems with money or love.
Prices vary depending on the nature of apology required. The Shazaiya Aiga Pro Agency charges 25,000 yen ($240) for a face-to-face apology, and 10,000 yen ($96) for an email or phone apology. Nihon Shazai Daikokao, on the other hand, charges 3,500 yen ($33) per hour.
A few agencies like Yokohama Benriya Natchan prefer not to reveal their prices – estimates are provided by phone consultation and they even offer 'apologies while crying' services for particularly angry people.




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Post time 1-10-2014 07:01 AM | Show all posts
xtreme giler....
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Post time 1-10-2014 07:29 AM | Show all posts
xkoser nk mintak maaf gitu
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Post time 1-10-2014 07:56 AM | Show all posts
smp gitu cara dia mtk maaf..x rela aku buat gitu taw..
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Post time 1-10-2014 08:00 AM | Show all posts
kalau takat boifren je tak payah la minta maaf sampai camtu skali...
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Post time 1-10-2014 09:16 AM | Show all posts
ni dh macam hamba abdi je....
rendah sgt maruah perempuan klau dh smpai tahap mcm tu
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Post time 1-10-2014 09:17 AM | Show all posts
tahap bongkok badan pun  berbeza ngan cara Korea/Taiwan..

tgk Jejak Jepun yang zizang bawak tu.. rasa nak sekeh jer zizang.. x buat homework lagaknya..
main hangguk jer..
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Post time 1-10-2014 09:19 AM | Show all posts
macam vangang jeee....
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Post time 1-10-2014 09:19 AM | Show all posts
ana_una posted on 1-10-2014 08:00 AM
kalau takat boifren je tak payah la minta maaf sampai camtu skali...

yg boyfriend tu contoh dia je kot.....tp quality kerja dorg aku mmg salute.
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Post time 1-10-2014 09:32 AM | Show all posts
ais_kosong posted on 1-10-2014 07:29 AM
xkoser nk mintak maaf gitu

ntah .!! ntah pape jek drg nih..heheh

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Post time 1-10-2014 09:45 AM | Show all posts
takat bf-gf xyah la sampai camtu
klu betul dia blh terima, setakat ungkapan "saya minta maaf" sdh memadai
klu tak, sungguhpun dh berkali2 dan berhari2 minta maaf xde respon
apa lg nak buat?
move on je la & hope for the best for both of us
gituu
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Post time 1-10-2014 11:12 AM | Show all posts
Sesuai kat sana je sebab dah budaya mereka sebegitu kat sini jangan harap le ada yang sanggup berbuat
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Post time 1-10-2014 11:59 AM | Show all posts
this is how they express their feeling. mcm org kita jugak.

1. kalau terkentut depan bf: sekadar sorry dibibir sambir jelir lidah.
2. kalau masak tak sedap: belum tentu say sorry tapi sound balik, masak sendiri,syukur lah saya dah masak nih
3. kalau kantoi ada affair: merayu2 sambil menangis sambil peluk kaki. ada jugak yg akan ckp, kalau abg boleh kenapa saya tak boleh?
4. kalau habiskan duit laki: duit awak duit saya jugak, kedekut.

tapi trademark kita adalah salam minta maaf, sambil bgtau 0-0 ye bang. ikhlas tak ikhlas takde sape tahu.


- sekadar berjenaka.
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Post time 1-10-2014 01:00 PM | Show all posts
dondangdendang posted on 1-10-2014 09:19 AM
yg boyfriend tu contoh dia je kot.....tp quality kerja dorg aku mmg salute.

betoi...budaya kerja mmg tip top..

errrr.... kalo lelaki salah pun akan buat camtu tak..?

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Post time 1-10-2014 02:08 PM | Show all posts
menyampah pulak tgk muka laki tu
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Post time 1-10-2014 02:21 PM | Show all posts
erkkk~ sampai mcm tu sekali
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Post time 1-10-2014 02:57 PM | Show all posts
pelik tol nk mntk maap smpe mcm tu..
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Post time 1-10-2014 03:58 PM | Show all posts
ana_una posted on 1-10-2014 01:00 PM
betoi...budaya kerja mmg tip top..

errrr.... kalo lelaki salah pun akan buat camtu tak..?

rasanya ya...sebab tu kan budaya dorg
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Post time 1-10-2014 09:42 PM | Show all posts
memang extreme cara minta maaf nye..
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