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Post time 6-12-2013 12:45 PM | Show all posts |Read mode
Salam forumers semua..

Saya nak minta pendapat  korang semua pasal adik perempuan saya ni..

Ok,cite die camni.adik i umur 19,masih belajar.umur pakwe die (afiq)26,kerja pon ok.semalam my mum told me dat family afiq nk datang merisik adik i.i was like WHAT??it's totally insane.time tu i mcm baran gak la.yela,pas merisik,of course la nk tunang n kawen.adik i tu bknnye ade duit lg.bljr pon xhbs lg.tu yg i mcm xsetuju mula2..

Then bila i tenangkan diri,i pk secara rasional..elok gk die kawen awl.at least ade org jaga die nt,n tnggngjwb ktorg kt die pon da  lps nt.TAPI,i sebenarnya nk die kerja dulu,rasa cmne hidup bekerja n bertanggungjwb kt fmly..

Pastu if die nk kawen nt,mesti la pihak pmpn pon nk kne ade gk  duit utk blnje kawen die.i xkesa nk sponsor  sikit, TAPI i nak die rasa penat lelah cari duit dulu.boleh x i nk suh belah laki je yg tanggung semua?jht mmg jht,tp yg si Afiq tu xblh tunggu dah kenapa?bila pk balik,sakit hati i.

Lagi 1,i xkesa pon die nk langkah bendul ke ape.i pon xrase pon nk kawen lg waktu ni.i nk kumpul duit,i nak  perbaiki diri dulu.byk bnda nk kena betulkn balik.

But the thing is,adik i tu mmg da sedia ke nk jadi isteri?smlm die call i cakap die pon xtahu.die pon dlm dilemma.tp si Afiq tu siap kata,if my family reject diorg pnye rombongan nt,the relationship will over!!!amboii kau!! die kata umo die da tua,so ktorg kena phm..amboii..yg adik i umo muda ni,xnk plak die phm..xphm btl cmne die ni pk.

So,i pon xtahu nk ckp cmne.my family setuju je.fyi,adik i yg umo 19 ni ank ketiga.so,bwh i ade sorang lg adk pmpn,umo 22.so,die langkah bendul ngn 2 org kakak la..huhu .ktorg xkesa pon..tp adk i yg nk kawen  ni,xblh ke bukak mata sikit tgk kakak2 die yg stable ni(stable la  sgt kann )huhu..mmg pas kawen rezeki murah,tp i nk die bljr cari duit sendiri dulu..tu je yg i nak sgt2..

I takut if ktorg xbg diorg kawen,kang xpasal2 jd benda lain plak nt..nauzubillah...

So,pendapat korang plak cmne?if xnk bg die kawen dulu,nk ckp cmne?
And if nk die kawen,i nk bg nasihat cmne plak kt die?

I xboleh tido semalam pk psl adik i ni
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Post time 6-12-2013 01:01 PM | Show all posts
Its her life, not yours to decide. u can share with he the pros and con marry at early age. the rest is still up to her.
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Post time 6-12-2013 01:05 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
X semesti muda x leh kawen. Lps kawen pun dia blh keje dan bantu famili. Apa2 pun its all up to her. Kalau dia rasa mmg dh sedia blh hadapi alam perkahwinan..why not. U kena bg support je la kat dia.
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 01:14 PM | Show all posts
sribayu posted on 6-12-2013 01:01 PM
Its her life, not yours to decide. u can share with he the pros and con marry at early age. the rest ...

i know..but she's my sister..i can share w her pros and cons on getting marriage at young age,but sometimes,for me is, if u rush into marriage,then u are not going to know each other fully..mmg dlm islam,elok bercinta pas kawen,but in her situation is,she's too young for this responsibility..
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 01:20 PM | Show all posts
FlowerGirl posted on 6-12-2013 01:05 PM
X semesti muda x leh kawen. Lps kawen pun dia blh keje dan bantu famili. Apa2 pun its all up to her. ...

i tahu xsemestinye muda xleh kawen..tp i risau sgt3 kt die..cuz i'm a protective sister..and i know she's not a baby anymore but hey,thanks for ur opinion



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Post time 6-12-2013 01:50 PM | Show all posts
pada saya better dia kawen awal, since dia dh ada yg nak,

dalam rumahtangga suami yg kena bg nafkah utuk family, wanita bekerja hnya utuk cari pglman kerja just in case smthg happen to the family (eg: suami mggal nauzubillah).... so tak da mslh kerja atau tak....

usia bukan bukti kematangan, so, kalau dah 19thn pttnya dah mtng la, malas2 sikit tu normal,
kalau nak tunggu matang smpai bila?

pepepun bincng dgn mak, adik beradik cara baik2.....
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Post time 6-12-2013 01:53 PM | Show all posts
Kakak bukan dilema tp jeles......
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Post time 6-12-2013 01:55 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Bagusla dia nak kawen. Sekurangnya adikhang & lelaki tu ada hala tuju dlm relationship depa. Aku support ja adik2 aku kawen even aku sendiri belum kawen.
Age just a number.
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 01:59 PM | Show all posts
cat_miow posted on 6-12-2013 01:50 PM
pada saya better dia kawen awal, since dia dh ada yg nak,

dalam rumahtangga suami yg kena bg nafk ...

i bkn ape..mcm u ckp td la,if ade emergency ke pape,tkt nt effect kt die la..hurm..xpela,lgpon fmly laki bru nk dtg merisik..
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Post time 6-12-2013 02:00 PM | Show all posts
biarla die nk kawin..kite sebagai kakak kena sokong.. parents u pun xbantah..baik kawin awal elak maksiat..pasal berdikari cari duit sendiri..lepas kawin pun boleh..ni bukn proactive ni jeles..hehehehe
jangan di halang benda yg baik.
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 02:01 PM | Show all posts
bidacool posted on 6-12-2013 01:53 PM
Kakak bukan dilema tp jeles......

amboii..kemain lg cik bidacool..xde mknenye kakak die nk jelez..if nk,ari ni gk leh kawen..huhu
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 02:04 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Innrukia posted on 6-12-2013 01:55 PM
Bagusla dia nak kawen. Sekurangnya adikhang & lelaki tu ada hala tuju dlm relationship depa. Aku sup ...

bkn i xsupport..tp i tahu adik i pon rasa insecure..hurmm...
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 02:05 PM | Show all posts
mamadaiyan posted on 6-12-2013 02:00 PM
biarla die nk kawin..kite sebagai kakak kena sokong.. parents u pun xbantah..baik kawin awal elak ma ...

bkn i xsupport..tp i tahu adik i pon rasa insecure..hurmm..
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 02:10 PM | Show all posts
mamadaiyan posted on 6-12-2013 02:00 PM
biarla die nk kawin..kite sebagai kakak kena sokong.. parents u pun xbantah..baik kawin awal elak ma ...

i bkn halang la mama..and ni xde kena mengena ngn jelez ke ape..sbb i knl adik i cmne..smlm pon die call i kata xtahu nk ke x..ni yg i risau ni.if nk,kata NAK,if xnk,terus terang je..ni wt org risau je
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Post time 6-12-2013 02:11 PM | Show all posts
hatiungu posted on 6-12-2013 02:01 PM
amboii..kemain lg cik bidacool..xde mknenye kakak die nk jelez..if nk,ari ni gk leh kawen..huhu
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Ada ke org nk kawin dgn ko? Dah tu kenapa tak kawin2? Ko nk stabil mcm mana lg? Nak sampai bakal laki ko masuk rumah cuci kaki? Ko yg tanggung dia?

Sembang bagi alasan je......pada hal ko yg sentap takde org nk .......



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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 02:23 PM | Show all posts
bidacool posted on 6-12-2013 02:11 PM
Ada ke org nk kawin dgn ko? Dah tu kenapa tak kawin2? Ko nk stabil mcm mana lg? Nak sampai bakal l ...

cik bidacool..lucu btl cik ni..ni thread psl adik i,bkn i..xkn sy nk gtaw knpe sy xnk kawen lg.if i reply dlm keadaan mrh pon xgne gk,sbb cik ttp akn ckp mcm2..

PEACE
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Post time 6-12-2013 02:34 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
hatiungu posted on 6-12-2013 02:23 PM
cik bidacool..lucu btl cik ni..ni thread psl adik i,bkn i..xkn sy nk gtaw knpe sy xnk kawen lg.if  ...

X yah layan dia. Dia mj lanjut usia. Ada nada2 jeles di situ.

Jgn marah bida...nanti kena jual
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Post time 6-12-2013 02:35 PM | Show all posts
hatiungu posted on 6-12-2013 02:10 PM
i bkn halang la mama..and ni xde kena mengena ngn jelez ke ape..sbb i knl adik i cmne..smlm pon di ...

alamak die pun xdecide lagi..parah ni..hehehe berdoa jela u..
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Post time 6-12-2013 02:36 PM | Show all posts
biarlah dia tentukan sendiri..
nnt jd apa2 dia salahkan korang plak sbb x bg dia nikah..
cma nasihat je nnt apa2 jd kedepan jgn kuar ayat..
nyesal nikah muda.. hihihi
tp x baiklah kan apa pon doakan yg baik2 aje buat diorg
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 Author| Post time 6-12-2013 02:43 PM | Show all posts
mamadaiyan posted on 6-12-2013 02:35 PM
alamak die pun xdecide lagi..parah ni..hehehe berdoa jela u..

tula mama..i pon pening ni..if da dpt tarikh nt,senang cket i nk mintak cuti..huhu
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