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tetiba saya teringat pada akak saya yg dah kawin 10 tahun tp still lom ada anak. moga2 suami dia setia sampai akhir hayat.. |
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Dear K Zanorba,
Kita merancang apa jua yg kita nak, namun Allah adalah sebaik2 perencana dan apa yg dia bagi pd kita tu adalah yang terbaik, no doubt. Hidup ini singkat sgt, eloklah tenangkan hati dan perbanyakkan ibadah. Sy always told myself that my hubby adalah anugerah Allah utk memudahkan saya beribadat dan mengumpul pahala didunia utk bekalan akhirat, if dia smcm meyusahkan hubungan sy dgn Allah, hope semuanya work out ok 4 u. |
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banyakkan bersabar, banyakkan beristighfar, banyakkan berdoa. Umpama kata orang-orang tua 'sekilas servis ace Roger Federerpun adakalanya sangkut kat net.
Inikan pula suami isteri' |
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Reply #42 Vvenus's post
The intensive one...sblm2 ni cuma ambik pil subur dan herba2 je... Baru first time nak go for extra rawatan...Bukan xnak buat sebelum2 ini or lamaaaa dulu...cuma sy x mampu dr sg RMnya...
Alhamdulillah...thn baru ni ada rezeki lebih buat sy, so sy dah berniat dr thn 2007 lg nak cuba rawatan kesuburan yg lebih lg. I bare all cost...Tak pe, kan? |
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Reply #48 zanorba's post
za...
dah cuba urut peranakan ke?  kut-kut tak betul... |
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Originally posted by suami_gilagila2 at 21-1-2008 02:44 PM 
'sekilas servis ace Roger Federerpun adakalanya sangkut kat net.
tapi ni husband dia ni servis-servis tak pandai ace, apatah lagi sangkut kat net. :cry::cry: |
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Originally posted by zanorba at 21-1-2008 01:41 PM
Ada le SEBAB2 lain siti...tp anak tu sebab utama...flow hb camni
Kawin ----> zuriat ----> melayan zuriat ----> tak bosan ----> x cari gf lain.
Kawin ----> xde zuriat ---> takde melaya ...
flow aku ya zanorba......
kawin ----> takde anak ---->amik anak angkat after 3y kawin ---->dpt anak sendri after 7y kawin ---->anak br msk 7bln ---->she filed for divorce
apa maknanya eh? kawin kerana nak anak semata ? |
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Originally posted by zanorba at 21-1-2008 02:55 PM 
The intensive one...sblm2 ni cuma ambik pil subur dan herba2 je... Baru first time nak go for extra rawatan...Bukan xnak buat sebelum2 ini or lamaaaa dulu...cuma sy x mampu dr sg RMnya...
Alhamd ...
zanorba, maknanya sebelum ni rawatan ialah from your side only kan. sebab takkan your hubby yg telan pil subur kan?
so, i assume your hubby sendiri tak pernah buat rawatan.
jadi, how can u alone be responsible sebab musabab tak dapat anak tu, sampai dia leh senang2 guna alasan tu utk bercerai.
there's always a chance maybe your hubby yg bermasalah,bukannya u. masalah maknanya bukan dia takleh projek..masalah maknanya maybe jumlah sperma dia tak cukup, or sperma dia jenis lemah (lom sampai destinasi dah mati), or macam2 lagilah.
if, my assumption tu betul (dia tak pernah wat check-up pon), so i think hubby u teramat2 lah mementingkan diri sendiri, bodoh sains, bodoh logik, dan hanya gunakan alasan tu semata2 utk cover kegatalan dia (sorry aaa bahasa kasaq sangat)
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Originally posted by Vvenus at 21-1-2008 04:21 PM
zanorba, maknanya sebelum ni rawatan ialah from your side only kan. sebab takkan your hubby yg telan pil subur kan?
so, i assume your hubby sendiri tak pernah buat rawatan.
jadi, how can ...
mummy pun kind of agree dgn vvenus tu... sbb my brother waited 3 yrs for his son... an bing waited 7 yrs for a child... but they didn't stray....
I think he just stray at first just for fun... then later... baru dia TERsangkut on another love... And then he create a hope that if he married this girl maybe ... MAYBE he'll have a child...
And from what aiva meant is.. bila you terasa mcm cepat it means ... dari luar / zahir jer spt you sedia to separate but deep inside.. you still have hope to prolong the marriage subconciously.... |
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Originally posted by Nisda_ at 21-1-2008 05:01 PM
I totally agreed with u, vvenus.
happen to me, for 1st 3year, nis sorang buat treatment tapi bila hubby
buka hati buat treatment pada tahun ke4, ternyata dia pun ada masaalah..dah alhamdullila ...
yes, sebab tu aku cadangkan mana2 pasangan yg ada masalah conceiving, biar dua2 yg gi wat check-up
jadi tak buang masa. masa 1st appointment tu pun, doc akan tanya sejarah medical dedua hubby & jugak wife.
kalu jadi cam kes nisda, kan cam buang masa..elok2 leh dapat awal, dah dapat lambat
mmg la rezeki Tuhan bagi, tapi kita sebagai hamba biarlah bijak2 berikhtiar
unless kalu dapat hubby yg ego, taknak gi check-up, taknak wat treatment..tuh mmg payah laa.. |
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Reply #2 zanorba's post
tetgk 3 bulan tu termengandung, camner?  |
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Reply #53 Vvenus's post
Kami pernah sekali pg LPPKN in early 2005. Hb ada buat sperm test-turn out to be normal & healthy. Myself at tht time suppose to go for intensive, but again due to Rm constrain, x buat.
Since tht, mmg hb xde buat further or 2nd time sperm check up pun. Since i dah 2x miscarriage (May 2003 & Jun 2006), so hb tak expect dia ada sbrg masalah relate to sperm (in which i disagree coz due to his smoking habit yg makin teruk). |
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"...hubby u teramat2 lah mementingkan diri sendiri, bodoh sains, bodoh logik, dan hanya gunakan alasan tu semata2 utk cover kegatalan dia" as quote by Vvenus
I have to agree wt this coz kalau tak kerana kurang bijak hb dlm hal sains dan logik yg berkaitan dgn sistem reproductive pprn-dia x kan minta sy sumpah junjung quran suatu ketika dulu semat2 nak salahkan saya sengaja makan pil marvelon! (in which i did so as per general doctor adv, to re-arrange my menstrual cycle yg dah hellwire pd suatu jangka masa tu & x habiskan pun mkn jg krn nasihat doktor pakar kesuburan)
Many said to me..."he just playing wt excuses, to justive his action.."
Terpulanglah pd hb... |
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"And from what aiva meant is.. bila you terasa mcm cepat it means ... dari luar / zahir jer spt you sedia to separate but deep inside.. you still have hope to prolong the marriage subconciously...."
Yup...i admit this quote... |
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Originally posted by zanorba at 21-1-2008 05:37 PM
"And from what aiva meant is.. bila you terasa mcm cepat it means ... dari luar / zahir jer spt you sedia to separate but deep inside.. you still have hope to prolong the marriage subconciously.. ...
thanks mummyslurpe.. sebab elaborate kan maksud saya..
berdasarkan pengalaman aiva di lawfirm.. keputusan Penghakiman akan berlangsung juga..
jika pihak plaintif gagal mengesan defendan (misal kata suami gantung tak bertali, tak bayar nafkah) iklan akan dikeluarkan di suratkhabar..daripada situ suami dapat dicari akan muncul dan saksi pun akan dibabitkan sama ini bagi tipikal kes yang sukar..ini kes lain..
memandangkan kes kak zanorba ni mudah, memudahkan segala proses sehingga ke Penghakiman dan proses penceraian kak zanorba mudah dan teratur sebab segala hitam putih yang pihak mahkamah dan pihak peguam inginkan lengkap..
berdasarkan pengalaman kawan saya yang memohon cerai kes dia berbeza dengn Kak zanorba sebab suami dia tidak mahu berkerjasama ini yang menyukarkan dan pembahagian harta dan pencarian lagi..
macam kes kawan saya lagi satu.. dia menceraikan isteri dia di luar mahkamah dan dikenakan denda berupa RM.. tapi disebabkan dia mempunyai alasan kukuh pengurangan denda RM dapat dikurangkan dan dia terpaksa mengulangi lafaz talak terhadap isterinya sekali lagi di dalam mahkamah.. |
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zanorba...mana tau u ada jodoh lain...dgn jodoh nih u dapat anak..kan..mungkin Allah dah tentukan yg lain untuk u... |
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oo...kalau pi mahkamah terus..and both hadir bersetuju utk berpisah...takyah kaunseling2 ke..? |
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Post time 21-1-2008 02:36 PM
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