jati diri...cemana nak dapat?

my-alja

cemana nak ajar anak2 belajar tentang jati diri?....

my-alja

me rasa jati diri berkait rapat dgn concept "self-acceptance"

Halilintar

ntah...diorang akan belajar sendiri kemudian kot...

blastoff

Self esteem.

Considered an important component of emotional health, self-esteem encompasses both self-confidence and self-acceptance.
Experiences at home, at school, and with peers can all build or diminish a child's self-esteem. Psychologists and child-care authorities who write about self-esteem generally discuss it in terms of two key components: the feeling of being loved and accepted by others and a sense of competence and mastery in performing tasks and solving problems independently.

Self-esteem comes from different sources for children at different stages of development. The development of self-esteem in young children is heavily influenced by parental attitudes and behavior. Supportive parental behavior, including the encouragement and praise of mastery, as well as the child's internalization of the parents' own attitudes toward success and failure, are the most powerful factors in the development of self-esteem in early childhood. Various experts have noted that when parental communication is consistently delivered in a negative style it becomes internalized, and children start to practice negative "self-talk," generating their own negative messages. In addition to their verbal communication style, parents also express acceptance and affirmation by showing physical affection and being good listeners, which makes children feel important and cared about.

Later, older children's experiences outside the home梚n school and with peers梑ecome increasingly important in determining their self-esteem. Schools can influence their students' self-esteem through the attitudes they foster toward competition and diversity and their recognition of achievement in academics, sports, and the arts. By middle childhood, friendships have assumed a pivotal role in a child's life. Studies have shown that school-age youngsters spend more time with their friends than they spend doing homework, watching television, or playing alone. In addition, the amount of time they interact with their parents is greatly reduced from when they were younger. At this stage, social acceptance by a child's peer group plays a major role in developing and maintaining self-esteem.

http://www.healthline.com/galecontent/self-esteem?utm_term=self-esteem&utm_medium=mw&utm_campaign=article

[ Last edited by  blastoff at 7-6-2007 09:28 PM ]

wei_loon5063

I think one of the factors are media.....

many people that I met are so mengagung-agungkan English.....

Yes.. english is important... but if english makes you think that your mother tongue is a disgrace, then you are no hope.

As a matter of fact, I met many peoples who are like that.

my-alja

self-esteem= is an art of feeling good about yourself...

sorry to say, our education system againts this principle from the start...cemana kita nak counterback the problem?

my-alja

Originally posted by wei_loon5063 at 7-6-2007 11:15 PM
I think one of the factors are media.....

many people that I met are so mengagung-agungkan English.....

Yes.. english is important... but if english makes you think that your mother tongu ...

ermmm....if we don't like what we have and what we possess....

how to get to self-esteem.....memang media byk mainkan peranan

wisteria

how we raise them up i would say ...

teringat satu poem yg state

if the child grow with hate, they will grow up being ape tu ..

anybody ?

seribulan

I got it...nanti scan n put it here....

got it on the net...

Children Learn What They Live
If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive,
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves,
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
But do not despair ...
If a child lives with tolerance, they learn to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If a child lives with praise, they learn to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, they live with justice.
If a child lives with security, they live to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, they learn to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship.
they learn to find love in the world.

梉/color] Dorothy Law Nolte

[ Last edited by  seribulan at 8-6-2007 02:36 PM ]

seribulan

pentingnya jati diri dipupuk dari kanak-kanak...

Let Me Be A Child

Let me know when I make you proud. And Help me to have
pride in my own accomplishments. Let me earn your trust. Then
trust me. I won't let you down. Let me try my wings. If I fail,
let me know it's OK. And encourage me to try again. Let me know
you love me. With a hug. Or a pat on the back, or when I need it,
with a firm but gentle "no." Let me be. Let me change Let me
grow. Let me tell you when I'm feeling bad... or angry

seribulan

When You Thought I Wasn't Looking

When you thought I wasn't looking,
I saw you hang up my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another one.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I saw you feed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I knew that little things are special things.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I heard you say a prayer, and I believed there is a God I could always talk to.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I felt you kiss me goodnight, and I felt loved.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I saw that you cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be.
When you thought I wasn't looking,
I LOOKED....
and wanted to say thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking.

- Connie Back

seribulan

Ibubapa penting meletakkan asas jati diri kanak-kanak mengikut personaliti kanak-kanak tersebut...

Love Me For Me

Dear Mom and Dad,

My hands are little --

I don't mean to spill my milk,

My legs are short --

Please - slow down so I can keep up with you,

When I touch something bright and shiny,

Please don't slap my hands.

Please look at me when I talk to you.

I just need to know you're listening.

Let me make mistakes without feeling stupid --

My feelings are delicate.

Please don't expect the bed I made to be perfect --

Just Love me for trying.

Remember, I am a child -- not an adult.

Sometimes I don't understand the things you say.

Please just love me for being me,

Not for the things I can do.

I love you mom and dad. You're all I have.

ajinomotonosuga

love shines thru example

wisteria

Originally posted by seribulan at 8-6-2007 02:31 PM
I got it...nanti scan n put it here....

got it on the net...

Children Learn What They Live
If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, they  ...

yes .. this one .... thank you

wisteria

Originally posted by seribulan at 8-6-2007 02:40 PM
Ibubapa penting meletakkan asas jati diri kanak-kanak mengikut personaliti kanak-kanak tersebut...

Love Me For Me

Dear Mom and Dad,

My hands are little --

I don't mean to spill my mil ...

very true ....

foundation

Originally posted by seribulan at 8-6-2007 02:40 PM
Ibubapa penting meletakkan asas jati diri kanak-kanak mengikut personaliti kanak-kanak tersebut...

Love Me For Me

Dear Mom and Dad,

My hands are little --

I don't mean to spill my mil ...

I like this.... memang jatidiri bermula dari zaman kanak-kanak dan ibubapa yang paling banyak memainkan peranan untuk membentuk jatidiri anak2.
kadang2 kita lupa....bahawa apa yang anak2 alami dalam sesuata suasana berbeza dengan kita.  ini disebabkan oleh perbezaan fizikla dan juga mental.

thanks for the reminder

kawan kawan...

terangkan dalam bahasa malaysia boleh tak, saya kurang fasih bahasa inggeris ni kalau baca tak ada pemahaman tak guna gak


terima kasih

my-alja

Originally posted by TrueHunter at 8-6-2007 07:24 PM
kawan kawan...

terangkan dalam bahasa malaysia boleh tak, saya kurang fasih bahasa inggeris ni kalau baca tak ada pemahaman tak guna gak


terima kasih

boleh true, not a problem....

me rasa konsep jati-diri ade kaitan rapat dgn "konsep penerimaan diri"...maksudnya, jika anak2 suka dan selesa dgn diri sendiri...barulah dia belajar menyayangi dan menyukai diri sendiri...barulah dia rasa diri dia istimewa dan tak perlu jadi org lain...jadi mak/ayah kena waspada dlm seni nak menyakinkan anak2 yg mereka tu istimewa.....

bila me cakap sekolah melawan nature anak2 nie, sebab sekolah kat negara nie hanya mengiktiraf anak2 dgn kelebihan yg tertentu...bukan dlm bentuk yg menyeluruh sepertimana kelebihan anak2 dlm bidang yg lain.....jadi bagaimana peranan kita nak mengimbangkan kekurangan yg terdapat disekolah kita sekarang....

jom kongsi pendapat

my-alja

Originally posted by seribulan at 8-6-2007 02:40 PM
Ibubapa penting meletakkan asas jati diri kanak-kanak mengikut personaliti kanak-kanak tersebut...

Love Me For Me

Dear Mom and Dad,

My hands are little --

I don't mean to spill my mil ...

tersentuh membacanya seri...thanks

redsinner

yes, heard of this..

perhaps in order to realize our children about jati diri is to give them their own pace and time to make their own way?
many parents nowadays had tremendous expectations put upon their kids, and alas their kids will feel suffocated...
particularly in asian countries, where our natural sense of competitiveness had put everyone at stress since the day they know the world.