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salam
bukak thread baru lah arini ...
sesaja nak ajak borak, antara 2 generasi mak2 kita dulu dan sekarang kita(mostly mak)...apakah perbezaan yg plg ketara dlm pendekatan mendidik anak2 yg masih you all semua ingat...
antara yg me masih ingat, my mom dulu sgt "berkuasa"....kikikiki, serba-serbi dia buat sampailah keputusan dlm keluarga...agaknya sebab my dad dulu askar, jadi selalu takde rumah...jadi dia ambil alih segala urusan dlm rumah dan terbawa-bawa sampai kami membesar...
yg me perasan, fungsi ayah kat rumah sedikit kurang...jadi me tak mahu ianya terjadi dlm my family, seboleh-bolehnya....anak nie akan nampak figure bapak yg jelas sebagai ketua keluarga
korang plak cemana? |
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Reply #2 some1in's post
agaknya org2 dulu memang camtu kot some1...sebab ayah dah sibuk carik rezeki, mak yg kontrol semua benda...
cam sekarang, 2-2 dah keluar cari nafkah...jadi 2-2 kongsi kuasa |
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terlupa plak thread nie
pernah tak korang jumpa anak2 yg berdendam dgn mak/ayah sendiri....boleh kongsi citer, sebab apa ianya berlaku?...
apa tekad kita dlm mendidik anak2 sendiri.... |
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Reply #4 my-alja's post
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pernah...tapi bila dia dah dewasa...dia dah lebih memahami..dan skrg aku rasa hubungan dia ngan parent dah ok..kes kawan aku tuh..is dia rasa parent dia tak percaya kat dia.. |
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Reply #1 my-alja's post
i think sama je. coz my mum is a housewife sejak dia kahwin and i pun. but my dad tak garang langsung pun with me. coz i kan anak tunggal thus mmg very very manja. but my mum yes... she is sooooo strict.
fungsi ayah di rumah..... ooo he brings us travelling and its always fun when he is around......
so much so it brings to the next question: pernah berdendam?
yes! ooo i hated my mum so much while i was growing up. but lepas kahwin & somewhat settled down, i undestand why she did what she did. having said so, she apologized for being at times nasty and failing to hug or praise me more when i was growing up. she said, thats how she was brought up and she knows no other way.
so now as an adult, she hugs me more ..... walaupun i dah kategori tua bangka  |
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Reply #6 spidernfly's post
i think spy....everyone of us had that feeling before, we hated our own mother..not until we become one ..
at one time, i liked my father most....just becos he's more fun to be with and my mum is the one who loves to put the "words" in my mouth...till now, i would say
me pun pernah gak cam paih, nak lari dr rumah...nak tahu mak akan nangis atau tak...kekekek
[ Last edited by my-alja at 11-9-2007 08:53 PM ] |
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Reply #7 paih's post
my mom garang sgt dedulu...comparing to myself, pun tak byk beza...
dlm pd tu, ada satu, dua isu yg me tak suka cara mak membesarkan kami adik beradik...mak terlalu concern pasal duit, mungin sebab dia terlalu susah masa kecik...sampai sekarang i masih jadi mangsa dia berleter esp bila dtg tidur kat rumah nie...kekekek |
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Reply #2 some1in's post
normally kalu nenek / atok nye upbringing lain sket kan... it's either u r pampered x ingat, or u r disciplined gile2 punye... i hav 6 siblings, divided equally = 3 were staying & brought up by our grandparents, another 3 by our own parents.
i used 2 envy my sisters yg dok ngan makwe & bakwe (our grandparents). they were quite lavish compared 2 us yg dok ngan mak & bak ni. & they were hardly scolded or punished... they had more freedom also  |
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Reply #8 my-alja's post
i never hated my mom, anger at times yes, but it was never hatred... mb sbb my mom bkn typical malay mom kot... she never nagged, she never made us do things that we didnt wanna do... she was sooo accommodating, disciplinarian but not a dictator...
my dad plak, quite authoritative but there was stil giv & take, tp garang, sakit ati! wen we were young, he used his belt A LOT! my sisters la byk kene, i didnt sbb wen i was growing up, he had mellowed down a bit. tp my dad ni really THE BOSS la. vr seldom did he help my mom wit the daily chores. (sbb tu i x mau my hubby jd camni! & i dh ajar my bb jd ringan tulang, sng wife die nnt...  )
i try 2 b like my mom, firm but at the same time xde la suffocate anak2... my hubby plak lain sket sbb his upbringing lain kan...
i think, parents nowadays (especially young parents like us), we wouldnt b cam parents dulu2 la... zaman dh berubah, parenting style pon has changed over the years... we no longer put us 4ward... it's not 'bt us, it's 'bt our kids... |
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my mom pun garang masa mac kecik. We had problems bila mac remaja and off and on pun tak sekepala dgn dia even till now.
I raise up the kids using her good approach but leaving out those yg mac tak berkenan. Eg garang sangat, ada parent-child gap, byk sgt rules and regulation.
In fact, smalam i was tired and asked my std 5 girl to get me a scoop of ice cream letak atas icecream cone. Bila my girl kasi pada i ice cream tu, my mom saw and she said, "Hmmm.... since when have you become a maid?" she asked my girl..... tension mac dengar. |
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masa form 3 dulu ada hati jugak nak lari dari rumah, tapi rasa macam gelap sangat pulak kawasan luar gate rumah tu..... takut hantu lak yg muncul. |
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Reply #11 mummydhani's post
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u ada kualiti ur dad tak dlm diri?....how do you deal with it? |
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Reply #12 macademia's post
hihi
biase la mac, nenek kan mmg tend 2 spoil their cucus... hihi... |
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Reply #15 my-alja's post
o coz la ade... i ni garang & kurang sabar... ikiki... tp now that my bb dh besar, i seldom lose it... mb sbb die dh pndai communicate his needs kot rather than nangis x tentu pasal... ikiki...
i rber one incident involving my 2nd last sister. die ni ms kecik kuat melalak... mlm je mesti nangis x tentu ujung pangkal... cukup seminggu die wat perangai, guess wat my dad did? die rendam my sis who was then 4/5y-old lam kolah kt umah, in the middle o the nite!!! my sis ni dok ngan grandparents, tp they lived across the road je... so ms my sis wailing her heart out tu, my dad terdgr... kecoh that nite! my nenek siap ckp "ko bunuh je la ank ko tu... bunuh je la!!!!" histerical she was...
then, the same sister la ni, wen she was in f3 gitu, die bleh x balik umah! cari sana sini xde... rupenye she went 2 my other sister's hs without telling my parents... guess wat my dad did? he asked me 2 gather sume bj kakak i, & HE BURNED THEM!!! lucky i was smart enuf 2 hide some u know...
dasyat kan my dad... ye la, org kg... cara pon agak orthodox la... now that his aged, we laughed over cite2 lama camni... die pon agaknye segan ngan kiteorg...
i didnt blame him 4 being him... it wasnt easy 4 him 2 raise 6 girls!  |
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Reply #17 mummydhani's post
it wasnt easy 4 him 2 raise 6 girls!
6 girls.....ya ampunnn..ramai nyer . |
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Reply #17 mummydhani's post
terlepas thread nie....
dasatnya ur dad mummy ...dia baran sgt kot
hafta admit, my mum cuma bising aje...tapi tangan dia berat |
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Reply #18 paih's post
hihi
tu la
mmg riuh la kalu berkumpul ramai2 tu!!! |
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Post time 27-8-2007 01:39 PM
变色卡
...lepas pantang je terus dok ngan nenek...smpai mama (dh arwah) sendiri ku rasa mcm org asing...cuti skolah pun tak balik umah mama..rasa cam x selesa..now mama dh x der pun x terasa kehilangan...bkn nak berlagak ke aper...tp perasaan kasih syg n berkeluarga tu x der...dh try tpp mmg x leh gak!
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