Need professional counsellor?

Elise2004_111R · Post time 16-8-2008 10:26 PM

Hmmm... I really do not know how to start.  I go direct to the point yeah... My sister in law lost her husband in may... but until today she is still not okay.  She admitted that she might need a counsellor coz she has lost the will to live... she is now working oversea.... is there any online counsellor which i can recommend to her?

Habis barang kegemaran arwah suami dia bawak bersama dia - just pamirkan dlm satu bilik, bila dia rindu arwah dia tengok semua barangan tu, lepas tu nangis....

Apa yg aku dpt deduce it that dia masih belum dpt terima kenyataan pemergian suami dia.  berderai airmata bila chat online dgn dia... aku nak dia ada semangat utk hidup, lalui hidup ini dgn tabah.  but at the same time aku tahu its easier said than done...

Camner ha aku nak tolong dia?

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auntie_girl · Post time 16-8-2008 11:41 PM

hurm, mintak dia dekatkan diri ngan tuhan

dats the ultimate solution

n talk wif sum1 she trust n can lean on

Elise2004_111R · Post time 16-8-2008 11:50 PM

Originally posted by auntie_girl at 16-8-2008 11:41 PM
hurm, mintak dia dekatkan diri ngan tuhan

dats the ultimate solution

n talk wif sum1 she trust n can lean on

Well, i did just that... when i was chatting on line with her... but it's the sweet memory that she shared with him that makes her keep thinking about him. She agreed with me that perhaps she might need professional counsellor (that's what her buddy advised her too).

If any of you know of any certified/professional counsellor, please let me noe.

seroja · Post time 17-8-2008 12:14 AM

soweee... oja sedeh sgt baca...

kejeron2 · Post time 17-8-2008 12:26 AM

In May? it takes time babe...
ksian dia...i can feel it 2.
u need to get someone prof 2 talk 2 her.

Elise2004_111R · Post time 18-8-2008 09:31 PM

Originally posted by kejeron2 at 17-8-2008 12:26 AM
In May? it takes time babe...
ksian dia...i can feel it 2.
u need to get someone prof 2 talk 2 her.

that is precisely y i am here, searching for one
if any of u noe one, please let me noe

puterikhaleeda · Post time 19-8-2008 10:24 AM

kalau dia kat ovc ramai profesional counselor dia boleh jumpa

puterikhaleeda · Post time 19-8-2008 10:25 AM

tp kalau dia pending2 makna dia mungkin dan dependen kat ko... tmt dia luah perasaan, nanti ko pulak yg sakit dok dapat negatif energi dia

evelyn · Post time 19-8-2008 01:52 PM

aku rase dalam hal ini.. walaupon die dapatkan bantuan counsellor, kalau die xnk terima kenyataan susah gak.. memang ar sume takes time.. tapi die first nk kene ade will utk terima sume ni.. she has 2 options.. nak emotional pikir2 bende ni.. or seeing this as motivational factors for her to live.. tu je.. aku pon kalo nk ckp.. masih xdpt terime kematian arwah ayah aku last month... tapi ape yang kte leh buat.. semayang 5 waktu tu penting.. baca yasin hari2.. berdoa!!! tu je yg leh kuatkn semangat kite.. yg nk cr counsellor tu die hanye kasi ko tenang je.. internally yg penting..

it is good sometimes for you to cry out loud.. ok.. sume org ade phase utk die heal.. maybe cepat or lambat je.. be positive k? yg penting close relative pon kene bagi motivational support.. tunjuk yg ade org masih appreciate die... gudluck to you n ur sis-in-law k? moga2 Allah kuatkan hati dan iman die.. amin

Elise2004_111R · Post time 19-8-2008 10:10 PM

Originally posted by evelyn at 19-8-2008 01:52 PM
aku rase dalam hal ini.. walaupon die dapatkan bantuan counsellor, kalau die xnk terima kenyataan susah gak.. memang ar sume takes time.. tapi die first nk kene ade will utk terima sume ni.. she ...

bukan dia tak nak terima kenyataan but dia rasa ralat kerana arwah suami dia meninggal ketika dia tidak ada di sisi... in fact dia mengaku kenangan bersama arwah terlalu manis jadi itu yg sukar utk dia teruskan kehidupan seperti biasa.... in fact bila dia di malaysia, setiap hari dia menziarah kubur arwah. aku benar2 risau & mahu dia teruskan kehidupan seperti biasa mentelah lagi dia masih muda, still in her 20's.

True-X · Post time 20-8-2008 05:49 PM

tuan umah.. ko suh dai lepak kat porem ni.. suh dai lepak kat Family Discussion ke... kat sane ramai org yg dah kawen.. janda ngan duda pon ade..

at some point i do think this porem is the best theraphy for my depression..;)

Elise2004_111R · Post time 27-8-2008 09:58 PM

Originally posted by True-X at 20-8-2008 05:49 PM
tuan umah.. ko suh dai lepak kat porem ni.. suh dai lepak kat Family Discussion ke... kat sane ramai org yg dah kawen.. janda ngan duda pon ade..

at some point i do think this porem is the b ...

if only she wants to join

hmm... hopefully with the coming of Ramadhan al Mubarak will make her stronger though Aidilfitri would be painful for her as she would be celebrating without her late husband

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