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Originally posted by niceghost2005 at 25-3-2009 09:45 
Assalamualaikum tuan ghumah,
Di dalam Islam, ada kaedah yg bolih di gunapakai di dalam membuat keputusan.
1. solat istiqarah
2. solat hajat
Kepada forumis yg lain, 'kemampuan' di dalam Is ...
TQ so much.. |
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Reply #284 aruni_dadykuzz's post
How are you getting on so far?
Are you okay?
Cares to share? |
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Reply #284 aruni_dadykuzz's post
hanya ALLAH & bidadari di syurga yg berhati tulus memahaminya
WALLAHU A'LAM..... |
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Reply #285 mbhcsf's post
hanya lelaki yg memahami HATI LELAKI.....
WALLAHU A'LAM.....
[ Last edited by sirri_khafi at 26-3-2009 18:30 ] |
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Reply #287 sirri_khafi's post
the thing is - Tuan Rumah tak pulah express/ communicate his understanding - on how the wife would FEEL dia cuma explore masalah dia shj iaitu terjumpa A and tak ada anak - i tak tahu sejauh mana result fertility test tu sebab kesuburan ni kedua dua pihak kena check and macam sorang tu cakap kat atas entah entah Nauzubillah the wife sekarang ( jika dilepaskan) jika dia diceraikan kahwin laki lain dapat anak pulak , cam ner? Tuan rumah pulak yg u know in big trouble.
i berapa kali dah cakap , i tak akan tolak hukum Allah ..mana boleh! i am okay with him cuba alternative dulu
iaitu gunakan pinsip asas _ No harm done dulu - cuba apa yg mampu DULU mana tahu doa ikhtiar dulu
then bila dah usaha ui think the wife akan faham
tapi so far i tak nampak effor tuan rumah untuk comminicate dgn wife dia pasal his feelings, his wife feelings and expectations
so Sdr Sirri, i bukan apa malas nak discuss dgn you sebab tak pergi jauh mana pun.
Masalah ini lebih kepada cara nak selesaikan actually daripada poligami ni.
tapi well i do not care lah ini bukan rumah tangga I ... tapi bila i tengok permasalahan ini kita rasa simpati and nak bantu dulu - no harm done dulu principle.
tapi u know...buat apa pun kena teliti.
I tak tahulah bukan setakat yesss Brother kahwinlah pi pi kahwin cara org cakap macam ni dangkal lah.
malas nak bincang.
dia ingat solution boleh selesai macam tu ker?
we do not know the socioeconomis status of the wife , we do not know how psychologically prepared the husband is...we do not know how 's the wife attitude, belief and expactation tentang masalah anak ni?
ni isunya yg kena selesai dan cara nya komunikasi berkesan
itu jer
so ?
simple kan?
yeah right..
secara kognitif bolehlah tapi nak kelaurkan ayat pertama nak sentuh perkara ni i am sure telan ayaq liyoq laah
so ? u see i am a complicated person ..why becoz i tengok satu isu tu "JUST " not - * masalah tak der anak"
kena ada 360 darjah thinking |
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when you see a problem just thinking holistically not just THE PERSON but everything that carries with it. so bukan semudah simplistic thinking
[ Last edited by mbhcsf at 26-3-2009 20:24 ] |
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Originally posted by mbhcsf at 26-3-2009 20:22 
....so bukan semudah simplistic thinking
woman are so complicated lorr..  |
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Reply #290 obelisk's post
no because kalau tak complicated jadilah si A? I lke you why not? forsaken all the rest , kan? the wife well ..who cares i tak kisah pun ( senang kan ada hati macam ni ...)
well, hidup ni wallhuallam actually tak mau cakap banyak banyak sebab nasib I pun i tatau heheheh tapi learn to think and appreaciate others.selagi berpada lah.
why not ?
muda lagi tu emotional maturity early adulthood boleh faham ler..... |
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Reply #291 mbhcsf's post
you ni pan-asia ke?  |
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Reply #288 mbhcsf's post
kesimpulannya, poligami adalah haq 100% lelaki ...
samaada ada reason or not, itu bukan haq wanita ...
for me, masaalah nih simple yaitu poligami adalah di benarkan ...
so, org perempuan perlulah rasional serta waras ...
jangan mullut kata " i maseh waras ", tetapi ada niat nak " sudip " & " batu lesung " kan org
laki. ini sifat x ikhlas & x redha secara total dgn hukum TUHAN.
nak jadi wanita solehah, kenalah berlapang dada ......
wanita solehah itu akan memahami suaminya dgn tanpa komunikasi sekalipun.
sebenarnya SAUDARI MBHCSF YG DI HORMATI, kesimpulan discuss ini dah ada... cuma, biasa lah org pompuan... x habis2 dgn feelnya setiap masa, mcmlah lelaki nih xder feel. u got it what i meant it ?
semoga ALLAH memberi petunjuk kpd saya & kamu, amin.
WALLAHU A'LAM ..... |
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Originally posted by obelisk at 26-3-2009 21:27 
you ni pan-asia ke?
no.org Kedah. ( tak yer lah kot rasanya dok tanya lagi yer ) |
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Originally posted by sirri_khafi at 26-3-2009 21:36
kesimpulannya, poligami adalah haq 100% lelaki ...
samaada ada reason or not, itu bukan haq wanita ...
for me, masaalah nih simple yaitu poligami adalah di benarkan ...
so, org peremp ...
well Sir,
look at the topic?
that person was asking for an opinion, right?
so , opinions will be pouring in.
that's all.
Simple.
U are entitled to your own opinion.
End.
Why are you quoting me? i tak lah halang. So u know ...
[ Last edited by mbhcsf at 26-3-2009 23:21 ] |
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Reply #294 mbhcsf's post
u ni mcm sweet je laah...can i borrow u?  |
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Reply #295 mbhcsf's post
i know, sebab i ikut perkembangan thread.
memang lah dia mintak opinion, so kita bagilah opinion asalkan tidak mengharamkan perkara
yg halal sudahlah kan.
tapi yg i x faham ialah, u kata org lelaki nih mcm tisu kleenex. opinion? i dont think so....
jangan complicated sangat... lelaki lebih suka wanita yg " sederhana "
WALLAHU A'LAM.....
[ Last edited by sirri_khafi at 27-3-2009 00:59 ] |
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Reply #297 sirri_khafi's post
then go and find your docile Victorian lah....up to you.
i do not care for a bit.
[ Last edited by mbhcsf at 27-3-2009 01:19 ] |
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tuan rumah tak nak update ke?
nak tau ape decision tuan rumah
kawen lg ke idak |
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Balas #299 gigabite\ catat
ntah kawen x jemput pun.... |
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Post time 25-3-2009 11:04 PM
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