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share emosi..anak2 dari broken family

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Post time 11-7-2008 11:43 AM | Show all posts
aku rasa dari anak2 duduk dlm marriage yg huru hara, lagi elok la cerai TAPI make sure diorg tak lonely...biar ramai org2 yg sygkan diorg around them
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Post time 11-7-2008 11:44 AM | Show all posts
nak share gak lah..

mak & pak i pun pernah bercerai masa i umur 12 thun.. masa tuh i dah ingat... kesian mak i ditinggalkan 3 org anak , i yg suloung. pas cerai pak i hilang tanpa khabar berita... mak i dah la tak keje dok menumpang rumah tok. rmh tok yg ada mak & pak saudara yg belum kawin... masa tuh i tau mak i memang tertekan... ada macam perli & sindir menyindir bila kita tumpang makan minum kat rmh tok... i pun memang terasa.. sedihhh ooo... kami tidur pun kat tepi2 dapur... je.

I nyaris tak dapat masuk sekolah menengah sbb mak tak de duit... masa pak pulak tak tau kat mana... i nangis masa tuh sbb nak sekolah gak... tapi tah cam na i dapat gak masuk sekolah menengah.. w/pun dah lewat masuk dgn bantuan seseorang...

Alhamdulillah.. selepas beberapa tahun.. pak balik & kawin semula ngan mak i... akhirnya berjaya gak i belaja sampai U...

Perasaan i sbg anak mangsa cerai nih memang sedihh... at same time rindu kat pakk mungkin sbb jeles kat org lain yg ada pak... sedih bila sekeluarga kena sindir2 org yg tak berperasaan.
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Post time 11-7-2008 11:44 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by alangGIRL at 11-7-2008 11:43 AM
errrr... aku wish yg parents aku cerai time aku kecik lagi... at least aku takyah nk tengok penderaan mental yg mak aku hadapi....

so bukan semua penceraian tu yg affects the kids.... kekadan ...

well said
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Post time 11-7-2008 11:45 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by bakawali_04 at 11-7-2008 11:36 AM


itulah realitinya kak lip..
tapi x semua org sedar...
but for me perceraian adalah jln terbaik..
kalau itu saje pilihan yang ader..
yang penting peranan ibu bapa bila bercerai..
jgn kera ...


senang citer, kalau salah sorang drpd parents tu jenis tak bertanggungjawab, pendera (mental/fizikal) etc... cerai atau tak bercerai pun, impact dia ttp sama kpd budak2 tu.... dia ttp hidup dlm keadaan emosi tertekan....
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Post time 11-7-2008 11:46 AM | Show all posts
aku sian ngan anak buah aku. kecik lagi yg sulung 5 thn yg bongsu 3 thn. hidup cam tak terusus jer kena pindah randah antara umah mak ngan umah bapak
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Post time 11-7-2008 11:56 AM | Show all posts
dalam hidup kite sentiase kene buat pilihan .. kite bertanggungjawab terhadap jalan yg kite pilih ..

so .. walopun korang anak drp broken family, korang ade pilihan cemane nk teruskan hidup .. kalo korang pilih untuk berdendam dan seterusnya merosakkan diri sendiri .. jangan salahkan org lain dan bagi broken family sebagai alasan ..

your life, your choice ..

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Post time 11-7-2008 11:58 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by Hana at 11-7-2008 10:40 AM
entahhhla..
hana duk dgn grandparents. bestnyee..  tak rasa apa apa pun.
apa2 berkaitan dgn sekolah..arwah datuk yg akan dtg & uruskan.
balik umah..makan lauk sed ...


sama ler, i was raised as the only child by my grandparents, spoilt brat...ada kot ciri2 tu...
both my parents re-married soon after their short-lived marriage (kalu ikut family ties mak aku dgn bapak aku tak putus pon sbb abg mak aku kawen dgn sedara mara bapak aku)
beza umo aku dgn adik dgn mak baru, 2 tawun, yg adik dgn bapak baru, 3 tawun
i never knew father until much, much later
takut kot, sbb nenek aku dah haramkan dia jejak kaki rumah tu..
sekolah rendah, biasalah cikgu2 ni ada yg bizibodi sket, bila aku kata bapak aku takde, ada yg cabul tanya, "ngapa? bapak awak masuk jel ker?"

but i was saved the agony of dealing with that nonsense when  i was sent packing to the boarding school
life was fun...until....my father tracked me down
drama i tell u....
i rebel of course...(aku penah terpikir kalu aku ni skolah tak pandai agaknya nak dak dia susah payah cari aku? )
kaunseling...kaunseling...kaunseling lagik....MENCIKKKK :@
he tried really hard to endear himself to me, showering me with everything money can buy lah
from that moment i knew, that i can't be bought, apa2 saja dia kasi aku ambik, tapi aku kasi kwn2 aku..
tapi the irony is, dlm aku rebel2 tu, antara kwn2, klasmet aku masa tu sedara-mara sepupu-sepapat dr belah bapak aku jugak, heran kan...pi mai pi mai idup kita duk berkisar2 dlm kumpulan manusia yg sama...6 degrees of separation gitu...

aku ingat nenek aku dgn mak aku tatau segala drama beli jiwa bapak aku..rupanya depa tau
DRAMA LAGIK....


errrr...nanti ler aku sambung balik..malas lak rasanya nak tekan2 kibod nehhh...
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Post time 11-7-2008 03:56 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by kudajantan77 at 11-7-2008 11:56 AM
dalam hidup kite sentiase kene buat pilihan .. kite bertanggungjawab terhadap jalan yg kite pilih ..

so .. walopun korang anak drp broken family, korang ade pilihan cemane nk teruskan hidup .. ...


setuju.. one finger pointing at others, other 3 fingers pointing back at the owner of those fingers....
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Post time 11-7-2008 03:59 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by alangGIRL at 11-7-2008 03:56 PM


setuju.. one finger pointing at others, other 3 fingers pointing back at the owner of those fingers....


The morel of the story...bila nak point, lebarkan sayap kesemua 5 jari2 tu sekali........jadi takder yang pointing back to us.......
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:02 PM | Show all posts
alang..kan i dah cakap kat atas tu kalau problematic marriage sampai melibatkan abusement memang cerai lah jalan terbaik...tapi kan sekeliling kite banyak kes yang mungkin boleh diselamatkan lagi tapi demi ego dua2 mak pak..cerai jalan yang dipilih...melibatkan orang ke3...mungkin leh diselesaikan cara yang lebih baik pun banyak yang cerai...Mak pak yang bermasalah contohnya jgn ler bergaduh depan anak2...yer i tahu bukan senang nak control emosi kan bila ada bergaduhan neh..tapi itulah cabaran hidup kita berkeluarga...
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:03 PM | Show all posts

Reply #27 hzln's post

wa pun on the same path le beb..  mmmm... true enuff when they said money can't buy you love.. of coz, boarding school was so much fun.. hahahaha.. tp sedih time tgk org lain mak bapak dtg tgk, siap dgn adik bradik skali jengok...
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:05 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by kudajantan77 at 11-7-2008 11:56 AM
kalo korang pilih untuk berdendam dan seterusnya merosakkan diri sendiri ..


Berdendam tu takder lah kot, tapi kalau ada option bubuh dalam surat beranak under nama parents ditukar pada grandparents...mau diubahnya......
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:11 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by LostSoul at 11-7-2008 04:03 PM
wa pun on the same path le beb..  mmmm... true enuff when they said money can't buy you love.. of coz, boarding school was so much fun.. hahahaha.. tp sedih time tgk org lain mak bapak dtg t ...

aku pun dok hostel 5 tahun.

happy gila.

balik rumah, asyik dgr family problem yg tak abis2.

tensen woo
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:13 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by alangGIRL at 11-7-2008 03:56 PM


setuju.. one finger pointing at others, other 3 fingers pointing back at the owner of those fingers....


btol tu...hidup kita, choice kita.
hidup kita sometimes tak boleh berhenti kat satu titik.. kena move on.
tapi at the moment me still berhenti kat satu titik, wonder why - why, adik i n anak2 dia kena dera
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:14 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by eva at 11-7-2008 08:13 AM
nenek belah bapak dia sempat pesan kat my sis, kalau anak dia tu terlantar sakit atau nazak, tak payah suruh niece yg bungsu nie pegi jenguk abah dia sbb abah nie memang takder hati perut


Ini yang agama larang.......
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:18 PM | Show all posts

Reply #33 mala0n's post

heh heh.. hostel life.. da best time..

pengalaman hostel ngajar kita being independent.. kan malaon..
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:18 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by LostSoul at 11-7-2008 04:03 PM
wa pun on the same path le beb..  mmmm... true enuff when they said money can't buy you love.. of coz, boarding school was so much fun.. hahahaha.. tp sedih time tgk org lain mak bapak dtg t ...


sian u ngan hzln.. i bet you both mesti sayang sgt ngan your children coz you dont want them merasa apa you all pernah rasa.
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:22 PM | Show all posts

Reply #37 eva's post

eva, very much, words can't describe..  as much as i can do for them, so they do not have to go thru the path that i had been..
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:25 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by manakautau at 11-7-2008 04:14 PM


Ini yang agama larang.......

btol tu manak.. my sis walaupon dah kena tampar, tumbuk dan kena pijak perut ketika preggy oleh ex dia, still dia nak anak2 homatkan ex-dia. . bekas mak mertua dia tu ckp mcm tu sbb geram kat anak dia sendiri..
waktu dia abused adik i dulu.. dia naik hantu hingga dia baling abah dia sendiri ngan parang sbb nak leraikan dia dr tumbuk adik i :@
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Post time 11-7-2008 04:29 PM | Show all posts

Reply #39 eva's post

alahai patut ler mak dia leh terkeluar ayat cam cenggitu...don wori kalau satu hari anak dia nazak dia tetap akan panggil cucu2 dia...
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