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Suami Member Kawin Senyap.. Patut ke Diberitahu?
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Reply faraway1
...tapi..kenape ek?
raindie Post at 24-6-2010 09:51 
bacalah dr 1st page tu,,,
tajuk ''apsal ramai bini bini tak reti jaga badan?''semua ada tulis..
malas pulak me nak jadi penulis summary ni...  |
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Cuba tanya diri you : what do wish to gain by revealing to your friend about her husband's other relationship/new wife?
You happy ke kalau your friend tu nanti tergolek-golek merana kesedihan dimadukan secara rahsia? Some more now got baby with the other wife already.
No wife wants to find out that their husband has been two-timing them & kawin lain. Whilst its a secret, the husband will still fulfil everything that he's been doing to the first wife (ie your friend). Once the secret is out in the open, your friend will face the full brunt of the new relationship. Money, time, etc. etc.... semua kena share and this I tell you will cause so much grief to your friend. If there are children involved, imagine them witnessing their parents fighting, screaming, crying .........
For now, leave things as they are. The fact that you posted your questions here, shows character. Do not rock the boat. Ignorance can be bliss.  |
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Dalam kes macam ni, I observe ada 2 mcm kawan baik. Masing2 ada justifikasi msg2:
1. kawan yg akan ...
aaz Post at 24-6-2010 20:46 
1...wife yang ada semangat kental...yang EQ mereka very mantap dan kuat...yang can survive with or without a man in their lives...yang mampu berdikari dan can sleep alone at nite...these type of wives would definitely want their frens to tell them if their husbands were having an affair...
2...wife yang lemah semangat...yang EQ mereka very low and not stable...yang cannot survive without their husbands...yang cannot even stand on their feet...yang totally dependent on their husbands...yang afraid to sleep alone at nite...these type of wives would not appreciate kalau ko tell them the truth...cos they are not prepared to face the truth...and when u give hints of their husbands punya kerenah...they would accuse u of trying to wreck their marriage instead...these kind of wives jugak are those yang akan mempertahankan suami mereka even tho they know suami mereka are adulterers...
...tt is in a dilema here...shes not sure whether should she tell or not...and she has got a lot to consider before coming to a decision...just becos the wife is her good fren doesnt automatically give her the rite to spill the beans...tt is in fact a very good fren cos she takes into consideration the possible outcomes kalau dia decided to tell the truth...and i dont think that it is fair to say that a fren yang try to hide something bad from us are the ones yang meremukkan jiwa kita...cos seriously...its not easy to be in such a situation...be honest and spill the beans and the family may collapse...the wife becomes a janda...the children separated from their father...can u deal with this??...if u can...then by all means...let her noe...
...but if u are not prepared also...then my advice is to just mind your own bisnis...yes she is your good fren...but...she too is not interested to noe the truth from u...hey...any wife would become suspicious already bila kawan baik dia bertanyakan hal suaminya dan gave warning and hints to look after her husband punya activities...the fact that she told tt off and instead accused tt of saja2 nak memandai timbulkan syak wasangka pada suaminya just show that shes not prepared to hear the truth...and when one is not ready to face reality...why keep on pushing??...what im afraid is that she might suffer a severe break down becos she doesnt have enuff resources to help her cope...
...ntahlah...kalau aku memang aku takkan bilang pon...cos walaupon shes my good fren...i have to recognise the line thats drawn between us...telling about her husband marriage is not my job or responsibility...its her husband's duty and responsibility to tell her...i can be there when shes sad or unwell...but...i cant interfere in matters concerning her marriage...even when she permits me to do so...like ive said...i have just got to noe the line thats drawn between us...
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Reply 23# blackmore
besarkan font boleh?
kesian aku yang rabun nih xleh nak baca ko punya statement |
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Reply 14# aaz
i assume TT nie rapat la kot dgn si bini tu...
kalo atas nama kawan saja, bukan tempat gelak ketawa, tangis duka...buat apa carik pasal
tapiiiiiiiii....kalo kawan hang out, kalo kita ada apa saja kerunsingan...dialah yg kita carik
aku pilih utk TIDAK membela nasib sisomi pengecut camtu...
sisomi patutnya dah tahu, dia pilih bersembunyi...segala macam andaian bole dtg
sorry ekk, i takmo jadi sebahagian drp konspirasi dia....ko carik pasal, ko sapulah ur own shit
napa aku plak yg takde kena mengena dgn dia, nak cover jantan yg tak honest camtu..
teringat movie meg ryan, women.....laki dia ada affair dgn penjual minyak wangi tu
kawan2 dia semua serba salah, i think it's quite normal for us....kawan kannn, how could u hide
so TT...i know u concern abt ur pren, if u can hide from chatting wt her....jumpa 2-3 kali sebulan
then zziippp up ur mouth....tapi kalo dia kawan2 u kongsi suka-duka, just imagine u kat tempat dia
dah laa somi khianat cinta dia, kawan punnn....sama 2x5 |
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setuju anatar, surat, email or sms dengan burung layang2 |
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labih baik dia tak tau dari dia tau. ko buat tak tau je laaa..... tak yah masuk campur hal orang. cukup sekadar kawan saje... |
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Reply 6# Hana
dan kurang memasak a.k.a air tangan takde dlm makanan
ko kena ajar kawan TT cemana nak berak 3 kg, beb...ahahaha
aku gurau Hana, jgn mara... |
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Reply Hana
dan kurang memasak a.k.a air tangan takde dlm makanan
ko kena ajar kawan TT ...
mala0n Post at 24-6-2010 19:38
kalau sekali berak boleh hilang 3 kilo..
me pun nak belajar jugak...  |
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Reply 29# faraway1
haha takdela...saja usik2 hana |
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kawan baik me baru bercerai..
dia memang citakan me dr A sampai Z
kenapa camana bagaimana, apa kesudahan etc..
jadi me andaikan kalau kawan baik,
tempat kita memang kongsi suka duka mengadu etc atas nama persahabatan..
tak salah bagaitau tapi dengan cara paling baik...
sbb me harap jika kalau cita camni berlaku dalam hidup..
me pun harap diberitahu lebih awal
dr cakap ''yea pernah jumpa dulu,'', kompem kawan tinggal kawan.. |
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Reply faraway1
haha takdela...saja usik2 hana
mala0n Post at 24-6-2010 19:42
me tau.. saja mengusik... |
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kalu laki tu dah kawin bg aku tu hal rumahtangga dia.... jgn kaco. x cakap xde masalah bg TT...
kalu laki tu belum kawin usung awek hulu hilir maksiat bagai itu nko kene ckp kat kawan nko tu.... x cakap dosa subahat |
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kalau sekali berak boleh hilang 3 kilo..
me pun nak belajar jugak...
faraway1 Post at 25-6-2010 08:40 
itu subject pengummpulan mantik la.. |
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kalu lum jd apa2 elok ckp ni semer dah jadi......dok dediam dah la.... |
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dia marah aku lagi.....siap jwb husband i tiap2 hari balik awal..jadi imam sembanhyang maghrib...u jgn pandai2 nak buat i syak husband i ....tau dak leni....
leni Post at 24-6-2010 17:39
ko dah tau kawan ko jenis MCM ini, lagi BERANI kah nak bagi tau yang laki dia dah berbini baru?
lagipun, consequences hasil pemberitahuan tu dah too late.. laki dah berbini pun..
takder apa yang boleh dicegah atau dilakukan selain si bini pertama tu sabarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr & redhoooooooooooo..
so, no point & tiada MOTIF & sebab UTAMA ko nak bagi tau..untuk apa? utk derang lakibini bergaduh memanjang? utk kawan ko tu sentiasa bersedihan sebab laki dia dah kawen lain?
kecualila ko bagi atau awal2 lagi..boleh jugak HALANG NIKAH KAT SIAM TU..itu adalah RESULT hasil pemberitahuan...
tapi, kalau kawan ko tu jenis tak boleh dimadukan & PASTI mintak cerai, boleh la dibagi tau sebab RESULT hasil pemberitahuan tu - BERCERAI. |
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Reply faraway1
haruskah gemuk menjadi faktor utama ek?adakah kebahagiaan bergantung pad ...
raindie Post at 24-6-2010 22:49
ko nie misti newbie kat FD ini. takper..aku pahammmm....sebab tak paham2..ISTERI TAK BOLEH GEMUK... |
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Reply 5# NURMIMIE
boleh pakai nasihat ko ni.... aku penah alami situasi cam ni...kesian pon ada kt org pompuan yg mcm ni.... tak cakap salah, cakap pon salah
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Post time 24-6-2010 10:54 PM
kita pilih kedai makanan nak? 
