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moving on..move forward..
adalah benda yang paling menyakitkan..paling sukar di lakukan dalam hidup...
tapi lagi sakit kalau kita tak move on padahal orang tu dah ada life sendir..
3 years??ye banyak memory yang dah tercipta and juga payah nak kita kubur atau buang...
3 years juga dah banyak benda yang you guy cipta and buat bersama..
its the matter of time...tu je..
tapi kalau kita tak decide nak move on kita tak akan mampu untuk move on...
menangis adalah benda biasa ..kalau rasa nak nanggis..go ahead..
i dulu macam you... tak nak move on...padahal orang tu memang dah tak pandang kita lagi..orang tu dah happy with her/his life dengan orang lain..
tapi sedar tak kita..kalau kita tak move on or let go tu..ibarat kita mengengam sekuntum bungga rose..ye..bungga rose nampak cantik..merah mekar..hakikatnyer..tangan kita berdarah..sebab kita pegang dan gengam batang bungga rose yang penuh duri..dari pada terus "luka" better just let it go let go......
soon or later pun you akan dapat penganti..
it just not mean to be together jer tu.... |
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yeah.. thats true though.. memg perit if kite hold owg tu for some time just because our heart couldnt let her/him go.. it eventually, it'll worn off and i really hope that i can get the chance to move on.. to feel and experience love again.. 
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Btw,ex ko dh kawin ke ngn bf baru dia?  |
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Handsome pun tak guna kalo emo & stupid
Org tamau duk terhegeh buat luahan bagai. Sila pi gantung diri la dik.. |
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smp masa nti ko dah xingat dah dia... buat masa ni ko layankan ajer perasaan frust tertonggeng ko tue |
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Post time 27-7-2015 08:59 PM
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tiramisuu replied at 27-7-2015 06:31 PM
Btw,ex ko dh kawin ke ngn bf baru dia?
Hurm.. Probably blom..
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Innrukia replied at 27-7-2015 08:49 PM
Handsome pun tak guna kalo emo & stupid
Org tamau duk terhegeh buat luahan bagai. Sila pi gant ...
Haha.. Kalau gantung diri, kurang la dunia nie sowg lelaki yg baik mcm den ni.. Haha.. |
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Damon_Salvatore replied at 27-7-2015 08:59 PM
Haha.. Kalau gantung diri, kurang la dunia nie sowg lelaki yg baik mcm den ni.. Haha..
Tak rugi pun dik... Hang idup pun tadek beza... Bkn hang mau kat pompuan len. Hg nak kat ex awek hg jgk...
Btw hang snggup kna maki dak? |
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Post time 27-7-2015 09:52 PM
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Innrukia replied at 27-7-2015 09:07 PM
Tak rugi pun dik... Hang idup pun tadek beza... Bkn hang mau kat pompuan len. Hg nak kat ex awek h ...
Haha.. Bte, it was a luahan je.. Xde kene mengena my action in the future.. |
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Post time 27-7-2015 09:55 PM
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menjad replied at 27-7-2015 08:58 PM
smp masa nti ko dah xingat dah dia... buat masa ni ko layankan ajer perasaan frust tertonggeng ko tu ...
Hurmm.. Nice advice.. Ok.. Noted.. Haha. |
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Lyn sgt perasaan tu.ingat allah la.ni ingt awek.dpt pe? |
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Es mengesyaki kehenseman abang?!!!
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Abang Spidey semakin tua semakin hensem.
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Edited by mbhcsf at 28-7-2015 03:28 AM
letting go means that you got to grip on something or have something - like a thought,notion ,statement of closure or a form of cognitive ( thought ) restructuring statement - a concrete and strong ones , that you , yourself could fall back onto in case that you are still missing her , yearning for her especially at rough and tough times - when you are really in the need of someone to be close to u, those difficult moments and that person is not there with you anymore.
well, in order to let go of something , you must be able to accept the unfavourable , painful circumstances that happened to you in the past ( this is at emotional and thinking level u know - the question that you should asked yourself - am i ready to let go , to be alone , to be off her memoriwise etc etc etc???) .
I know acceptance is hard.... and it can be very, very hard yups i know it....yups by God i know how it feels like hahahahah - and that is why the author on bereavement - Kubbler Ross has placed the word ' acceptance' at the very last stage of bereavement. it refers to a sort of ' stable state' where you can be at peace with what happened in the past for once and for all. You would be smiling and spontaneousy felt allright with the hurting past tu...you can talk about it, and insya ALLAH retrospectively be able to see the wisdom ( hikmah ) behind it, you can reflect on it in positive light , when the hikmah is subconsciously revealed to u , bit by bit like s stream of light pass thru your glasses window through the velvet curtain at syuruk time / sunrise. so be patient ....
so read on bereavement by Kubbler Ross, if this would do u any good, find yourself a good , final closure with her - etc etc , an email to yourself or is she does not mind , a nice positive ones - write to her telling how you feel, and how would wish things aren't not what they are right now...and that you are going to move on. if this would help you to find a closure. but promise to yourself that you Will MOVE ON!!!! there is no need for you to latching on the painful past la. let go of the memory and embrace your next exciting phase of life !!!!
you have to know something, the act of letting someone to pursue her happiness with another being, is not a sign of weakness on your part you know... on the contrary , this is actually a sign that you are indeed a strong person, wise and mature being , know when to bowing out of the relationship when the person or the love given by you is not wanted or truly deserved anymore by another party. May be you deserved to be with someone else, you might be destined with someone who truly deserved your kind affection, attention and etc etc in the future, who knows right ? wallahuallam. i hope you somehow would be able to be happy if your loved ones is truly happy with another being . May be the person with whom she going to end up with is the right person for her, may be the one to hold her hands might not be you ,and may be there is someone for you , waiting for you , who knows...wallahua'lam.
rasa macam terkilan luka geram je kan macam sesia je kan? tak pe , another lesson for you ( if you are a muslim) next time should u fall in love again is to kindly say ; i love this person lillahi taala - which means - during the period of relationship - you would obey the syariah, and acknowledge that this person might or might not be ended up with you but you REDHA anyway...? ( amacam boleh ke? sakit je bunyi kan  ) , no grudges but all good kind words and prayers for her in this world and hereafter.boleh? sowhen you put your intention purely for Allah's sake, then insya ALLAH , He will be there to mend your broken , sad, painful past ..cepat je...tak lama pun..sebab hati u dipenuhi dengan cinta-Nya.
sometimes you need to disconnect in order to reconnect - i , for one , have no idea what this phrase means then but i do know the hidden meaning behind it now , yups. , so may be it 's the time for you to give the love to the supreme creator, the most beneficent and merciful - for he is the one seeing you, feeing you with his provision, keeping your next breathing cycles on end...hmm? for a start ? may be before this, you have given al your effort , attention to her as your no 1 ? but not Allah ? wallhua'lam. kekadang kita lupa diri kita ni just the servant of allah...you terasa macam tu tak? so dalam paandan dunia seorang islam apa apa allah bagi tu satu lesson or direct exercise / ujian, so ujian bercinta ni common but unique to each individuals.
so filled up your heart with Allah , and try giving yourself a time to heal.
time is the best answer to any broken heart.
finally be grateful to Allah for the lesson, experience, learning process - these will surely of value and for your future wisdom . Be patient...and awak kalau awak islam lah...lakukan amal ibadat if sebelum ni u think diri terlalai? terleka, carilah ilmu agama ye ...seriously...awak ni dunia...bukan i nak kata dunia tak penting dan kena tolak tapi you need to see this thru teh world view of a muslim that life in this world is not long lasting...the pomp and glitters are just merely illusion je...yes, we feel it, we like it - i wont blame you but at the same time allah sends you his love signals that you be warned and back to repentance jugaklah...
sayang Allah is better and he would never let u down
believe in HIM...allah kan ade? dia lagi berbaloi untuk you sayang pun.
i wish you well...
tak pelaaa...be happy, send her the prayers - and when you do that malaikat aminkan dan doakan untuk you jugak...
so it is okay.. u learnt. |
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Edited by mbhcsf at 28-7-2015 04:32 AM
by the way - i think you are not ready just yet to find her replacement so please refrain from engaging in any rebound relationship - you might ended up victimising the lady and you, ( may be ) - this is is not morally and ethically sound judgement.
love a person when you are ready to try again and not because of sheer boredom or loneliness , ni dah tak betul sebab org macam ni jugak ended up menzalimi another human being or servant of god.. jgn zalimi org or another lady like this.
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jarang kpot i dengar lelaki payah nak move on...
ke kes ko tak appreciate dia tu yang buat dia beralih angin...???
yup soon or later ada lah tu....
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Post time 27-7-2015 04:45 PM
