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seribulan

Abg Lan kata bebudak sekrg perlu dibiar meluahkan pendapat mereka...
jangan disekat perkembangan mental mereka...ini mereka dikatakan kurang
ajar bila dirasakan celupar kerana terlalu lantang bersuara atau kerap bertanya...

Kurang ajar @ mereka sedang belajar?

Agul

Abg Lan kata bebudak sekrg perlu dibiar meluahkan pendapat mereka...
jangan disekat perkembangan mental mereka...ini mereka dikatakan kurang
ajar bila dirasakan celupar kerana terlalu lantang bersua ...
seribulan Post at 27-9-2009 21:20

I don't know, a smart kid (or more accurately half smart) have to ask tonnes of question and kadang2 don't realize they are celupar or kurang ajar.

A smarter or more talented kids will be able to deduce when, where and what's appropriate. They understand the concept of kurang ajar and can't understand the stupidity of their friends who fail to grasp such simple concept.

Sometime they don't even have to ask as they already know.. Yes, there are stil question that they ask. Just different question.

So if there's a kid who keeps asking annoying question, realize that they are smart, but not smart enough. Or sometime they pretend to be smart by asking lots of question as most adult have this perception that smart kids ask annoying question..
The adults think there s direct correlation between smarts and annoyingness..

kadang2 those adult saja je buat andaian macam tu sebab nak menyedapkan hati... yelah, dapat anak annoying, nak sedapkan hati anggap  je anak tu bijak..

seribulan

or they are really insecure...in order to hide their own defeciencies...they put up a cloak of self-righteousness and deem others questioning things that they can't really grasp or understand as annoying or disrespect?

Agul

or they are really insecure...in order to hide their own defeciencies...they put up a cloak of self-righteousness and deem others questioning things that they can't really grasp or understand as annoy ...
seribulan Post at 27-9-2009 21:55

Both are possible. At the same time.

We must not worship intellect.

The spirit of introspection must be cultivated, we must not depend on outside confirmation only.

Most people are the same. No one is better than others except as he makes it so.

Agul

In simpler ways,
is it the smart impressing the stupid,
or the stupid impressing the stupid.

However do know that there are honest and sincere question. The kids just have plain curiosity.

However the adult should not be so gullible as sometime the kids are just playing with them.

Seriously, in your childhood, have you people not done so? Owh, come on...

seribulan

not just kids...even adult...act gullible or naive...just to survive or achieve an end...
or the case where we know others who are insecure don't like smarter others...

Agul

to make ends  meet, people act gullible, naive and play suck up to others..

sometime people balme, crictise, sometime play weak.. so many ways we human use to control others... because we are scare of our own mortality...

kroit92

err, ni perbincangan momod je ek..

ajinomotonosuga

curiousity thrills the cat

manjamalinja

sebab kurang ajar la perlu diajar...

berburu ke padang datar
dapat rusa belang di kaki
berguru kepalang ajar
ibarat bunga kembang tak jadi

fikir2kan pantun di atas...

arinn

Menghadapi remaja memang bukan hal yang mudah. Menurut Adams dan Gullotta (1983), ada lima kaedah kalau kita mahu membantu remaja dalam menghadapi masalah mereka. Yang pertama ialah Trustworthiness (kepercayaan), iaitu kita harus saling percaya dengan para remaja yang kita hadapi. Tanpa itu jangan harap ada komunikasi kepada mereka. Yang kedua ialah genuineness, iaitu maksud yang murni atau tidak berpura – pura. Ketiga ialah empati, iaitu kemampuan untuk merasakan perasaan – perasaan remaja. Keempat ialah honesty (kejujuran). Yang kelima dan terpenting ialah adanya pandangan dari pihak remaja bahawa kita memang memenuhi keempat-empat kaedah tersebut.  Jelaslah bahawa menghadapi remaja memang sukar, walaupun kita sudah melakukan keempat-empat prasyarat tersebut.

hearthati714

bila kurang ajar,rulesnya simple..perlu di ajar.kalau tak boleh terima juga ajaran tak tau la nak cakap apa dah.biarkan mereka tenggelam dengan labu2nya je la

JeepersCreepers

Boleh aje suarakan pendapat atau persoalkan ttg sesuatu dgn cara yg sopan. Intelligence does not equal rudeness

JeepersCreepers

Boleh aje suarakan pendapat atau persoalkan ttg sesuatu dgn cara yg sopan. Intelligence does not equal rudeness

imanda

Perlu ada komunikasi dr kecik2 lagi. Pastu nk suarakan pendapat boleh cuma kena train dgn speaks out politely. Again, kalo suarakn pendapat beserta emosi tentu akan jd kurang ajar wpon pendapat tu betol.

cmf_elegant

suasana persekitaran sekarang tak sama dgn dulu, so kalau budak2 sekarang tanya soalan yg mungkin lebih open, parents/org tua jgn mudah melenting..diorg tanya sebab nak tahu...

better budak2 tanya parents drpd tanya rakan2 sebaya yg sama2 naif...takut2 dpt nsihat yg salah...lagi haru

mortekx

Zaman skrg kita kene ajar budak2 to speak up for themselves. tp kene lah appropriate nye reply. Sbb kalo main jawab jer, semue bende nak menjawab.. itu dah tak betul. Itu mmg melawan..

zueazza

Tak salah utk anak2 voice out apa yg diorang rasa. Yg penting, Parents kena pantau apa yg dicakapkan oleh anak2. Kadang2 terdengar anak2 cakap benda bukan2 tapi parents buat tak tau je. Ini tak betul. Anak2 cepat belajar, cepar terikut2 dengan persekitaran. Mak ayah kena pastikan anak2 tak tersasar dan ikut benda2 yg tak sepatutnya

cheergirlz

cheergirlz

perkembangan minda kanak-kanak masa kini memang terlalu cepat..proses pembelajaran daripada persekitaran juga menjadi penyumbang utama..apa yang kita buat, sebut dan lihat juga akan dilakukan oleh mereka. jadi, sebagai ibubapa dan orang dewasa, kita perlu terangkan kepada mereka sebab kanak-kanak tidak tahu lagi tentang akibat daripada perbuatan yang dilakukan sama ada positif atau negatif.