Tell me what actually the guys want?

"Ni problem i or husband i yang problem?"


Hi. I seorang darling, a petite woman yang dah menjengah hampir 37 years old and my husband 39 this year. Weouls marry agak lambat for career reason.
Masalah I ialah i always overthinking about my body and my sexual relationship with my husband. I think I put so much effort, tapi macam tak berhasil. My husband tak pernah cakap apa, tapi I la yang rasa mcm worthless sbb body type I. I taktau is it my problem atau my husband's problem. Actually, I dont think I have a heatlhy sex life with my husband, sbb dia slalu tolak kalau i minta.

Kdg-kdg once a week pun belum tentu. I ni tak sure la either myself kuat nafsu or apa tapi Hari-hari mmg I ajak sbb rata-rata I baca wifey suka tolak ajakan hubby makes your hubby tawar dengan u. Tp, asyik-asyik I je start dlu. I yg selalu start dlu utk ajak hubby bersama tu and dia tak pernah sekali pn tnjuk interest for 'sex'. Just lps lama-lama tu die 'on' utk proceed tp mcm terpaksa pn ada. Sometimes I ask knp dia say no, dia kata penat kerja. Sometimes, I risau takut dia ada scandal.

I know since high school I bukanlah woman yang cantik pun sebab I selalu kena body shaming yang I'm so slim. And pernah fear marriage sbb tkut hubby tak bernafsu. (tp I fit la and have strong stamina-i mmg pergi gym), And maybe bukan jnis body type yang laki suka kot (flat-chested as well u know what i meant). And my fear lagi teruk lepas marriage sampai i pergi kena terapi n counselling. Im still on terapi fyi.

Tp i try mcm-mcm actually sblm n slps marrige, i makan jamu and everything (ade i baca mcm ramai suruh makan supplement untuk besarkan breast la but its not that easy weh kalau u mmg born as slim type - u know what i meant) My mom pernah marah i kot sebab dia worry i sakit sbb mkn supplement bukan-bukan (well roll eye she thinks la bukan-bukan),


I always pkai seksi for my husband tp mcm dia tak attracted sgt pn. smpai i pernah rase mcm worthless la juga.

Fyi, i risau kalau dia 'lepaskan' nafsu die dkt tmpt lain, as i have lots of male friends, theyols bgtau usually they are not saying 'no' for sex.

So, i need advice . I pernah tanya kwn-kwn I tp still tak dpt answer. mybe boleh hear from the guys. Takkan sampai i nk kena buat plastic surgery?

airmineral

please talk to your husband apa yang u rasa, dan apa hala tuju perkahwinan yang dia nak bawa...adakah dia willing untuk berubah atau tidak? then u can decide

Vellfire

hi awak

awak mcm pendam perasaan sorang2.. kot2  suami awak tak fikir apa pun
yerlah sebab kita perempuan ni suka fikir lebih2 or yang bukan2
tambah lagi.. hari2 dengar cerita/berita rumahtangga orang cerai berai
mulalah kita nak syak dengan pasangan kita dan cari kelemahan pasangan

puan pilihlah hari/masa yang sesuai untuk bincang dengan suami ala2 dating..
bagitau apa yang terpendam selama ni.. tanya dia dan luahkan apa yang terbuku dihati

ni tips aku.. aku selalu pakai ayat ni kat rumah..

"abang ada hal nak cakap ni" buat muka tegang
laki mesti suspen dengarkan

ajinomotonosuga

cian nyaaa

Tinot7

TT dah ckp dgn somi ka? Apa outcome?

Butterfly41

Please say no to jamu and any supplement related to sexuality. Please love your kidneys more than your husband,

xtravaganza

I bersimpati dgn tt tp I x boleh nk bg pendapat sbb x ada pengalaman mcmni.. X ada lelaki ke blh bg comment psl ni?

Mekgadis16

I’m so sorry to hear this. Please jangan overthink sangat. It’s not good for your mental health. I setuju dengan komen2 kat atas ni. Talk heart to heart dengan ur husband. U take care ok sis

Wanitahensem

Same kes dgn sy currently . And recently sy jumpe phone die penuh dgn web porn and perempuan seksi lain random . Its like mcm hobi die utk puaskan nafsu die secara imaginasi