Post time 24-4-2021 01:37 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
nolya replied at 24-4-2021 12:49 PM
Apelah nak dihairankan kpd mualaf bertindak sedemikian. Orang melayu yg lahir dlm kalangan keluar ...
Semua dah besaq panjang. Voley pikiaq sendiri. Lain la kalau belum akil baligh. Bab si suami sudah atopon belum nasihat isteri, wallahualam dan tak voley komen.
IRSYAD AL-FATWA SERIES 220: HUSBAND WOULD BEAR THE SINS OF HIS WIFE?
Question:
Is it true that the husband would bear the sins of his wife?
Answer:
Alhamdulillah, praise and thanks to Allah for the many countless blessings He has blessed us all with. Blessings and salutations to the Prophet Muhammad PBUH, his wives, his family, companions and all those that follow his teachings to the day of judgement.
In the Quran there are a lot of verses that command every Muslim to take care of themselves and the people around them from misdeeds and sins. Among the statements of Allah SWT are:
“O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire,”
Surah al-Tahrim (6)
Syeikh Muhammad Sayyid Tantawi in his commentaries said that this verse is for every individual that pronounced their belief towards Allah SWT, so that they will keep themselves away from hellfire by doing good deeds and avoiding sins, and their family members by advising them, showing them the right way and asking them to do ma’ruf and keep away from munkar. Meanwhile, Imam al-Qurthubi wrote the opinions of Qatadah and Mujahid that said, protecting oneself by always being mindful of one’s actions and protecting one’s family members through advice. (SeeTafsir al-Wasit,476/14)
However, answering the question above, originally in syara’ every individual is responsible for his own actions and not of someone else’s. This is in accordance with a statement of Allah SWT:
“And every soul earns not [blame] except against itself, and no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another.”
Surah al-An’am (164)
Imam al-Hafiz Ibn Kathir when commenting on this verse said that, this verse explains about the Day of Judgement when the reckoning, reprisal, punishment and judgement from Allah SWT will be passed. Every soul will be recompensed based on his deeds. If his deeds are good, then he will be rewarded. And if his deeds are bad, then he will be punished. This is because every soul (human) will not bear the misdeeds (sins) of someone else. This proves Allah SWT’s fairness, as stated in the Quran: (SeeTafsir Ibn Kathir,383-384/3)
“And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another. And if a heavily laden soul calls [another] to [carry some of] its load, nothing of it will be carried, even if he should be a close relative.”
Surah Fatir (18)
Reviewing the verse and the statement by Imam Ibn Kathir above, clearly it shows that according to syara’ every human being with mature thoughts and has reached puberty (mukallaf), a person’s sins is on the person, it does not matter whether the person is a husband, wife, father, mother, child or others. However, the husband or anyone else for that matter, will bear a sin if he does not fulfil the responsibility that is his. For example, advising his wife in ma’ruf matters and preventing her from munkar. This is said in a hadith:
From Abdulah bin Umar RA, the Prophet PBUH said:
“Beware. every one of you is a shepherd and everyone is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (as to how he conducted their affairs). A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shall be questioned about them (as to how he looked after their physical and moral well-being).”
Sahih Muslim (1829)
There is also a statement from Allah SWT that shows that man is the leader for woman.
Allah SWT states in the Quran:
“Men are in charge of women,”
Surah al-Nisa’ (34)
Syeikh al-Sa’di said, the meaning of “men are in charge of women” in this verse is that men are obligated to ask the woman (wife) to fulfil the rights of Allah SWT, such as the obligatory worships in Islam and preventing their women from sins. This verse states the responsibility of men (husbands) towards their women (wives) in ensuring they fulfil Islam’s commandments. (SeeTafsir al-Karim,177)
To answer the question asked, we state here that a husband does not bear his wife’s sins at all if he has fulfilled his responsibilities the best he could. However, if his wife still sinned after his advice or his wife sinned behind her husband’s back (without his knowledge), then his wife sins are hers to answer to and the husband does not bear any of her sins. This is because his responsibility is to advise his wife and that is what will be asked of him in front of Allah SWT on the Day of Judgement if he neglected his responsibility. Thus, we emphasize that a husband does not bear his wife’s sins for it contradicts the Quranic and prophetic evidences stated above.
Closing
As a conclusion, every individual (mukallaf) will be responsible for his/her own sins in front of Allah SWT on the Day of Judgement. And he will not bring or bear the sins of other people after he has fulfilled his responsibilities the best that he could. Lastly, may Allah SWT give us solehah wives and make our family a family that is built with sakinah (peace), rahmah (blessings) and mawaddah (love). Amin.
Saya berpendapat begini, bukan semua ummat muslimin yg dah besar panjang dn akil baligh boleh pikiaq sendiri demi mematuhi hukum Allah swt. Maka betapa ramai kita baca ummat muslimin terkucil memegang amanah dn tanggungjawab mereka sbg pemimpin terhadap keluarga dn ahli. Betapa ramai sumbang mahram, zina dn minum arak yg semua dilakukan oleh mereka muslimin yg sudah akil baligh. Adakah mereka tak boleh pikiaq sendiri. adakah mereka yg tak tau hukum, those para suami yg berselingkuh di luar, yg tak tunaikan nafkah dn tak menjadi imam yg baik terhadap keluarganya.
Apalagilah tanggungjawab seorang suami terhadap isterinya yg memang tidak terdidik dm acuan Islam, maka itu tanggungjawab besarnya untuk membentuk isterinya menjadi muslimah dn kegagaln dia kelak akan ditanya. Barangkali ayat "Kullukum Ra'in, Wakullukum Mas ulun 'An Roiyyatihi" dpt dikaitkan tanggungjawab seorang pemimpin terhadap orang2 yg dipimpinnya: raja/pemerintah kpd rakyatnya, suami kpd isteri dn anak2nya.
Post time 24-4-2021 02:27 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
At least, ada lah juga kesedaran untuk dia belajar bersolat. Cumanya, memang muallaf ni dulu tak payah pergi kelas fardhu ain ke before/after revert? Kawan iols dulu masa kat UK, dia british muslim tapi dia tak solat. Dia cakap dia solat kadang2 aje sebab dia trauma masa dia kecik, dia try solat. Lepas tu nenek dia pukul kaki dia sebab sujud tak betul. Tapi dia kata dia happy bila bersolat sebab macam calming katanya. Jadinya, iols rasa kalau mare ni dah berminat nak solat, let her be lah walaupun tak sempurna.
Kalau suami dah didik dan bimbing isteri ( tak kisah mualaf ke tak), maka suami dah selesai tangggungjawab dia
Isteri degil or malas...tu dia tanggung sendiri
aku pernah dgr ceramah, Ustaz tu kata zaman skrg ramai suami yg sibuk atau dia sendiri tak berapa arif bab agama, maka wajib cari ustazah untuk ajar isteri dan anak. Kalau tak, di akhirat nanti isteri boleh tuntut. Sebab didikan agama ni sebahagian dari nafkah yg wajib suami bagi
Post time 24-4-2021 02:45 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
nolya replied at 24-4-2021 02:17 PM
Saya berpendapat begini, bukan semua ummat muslimin yg dah besar panjang dn akil baligh boleh piki ...
Iols berpendapat begini, bila dah akil baligh, voley pikiaq sendiri. Kalau bg alasan, Allah akan buat perhitungan masa akhirat nnt. Iols tak komen sbb biar perhitungan itu yg tentukan. Depa ni bknnya bebudak lembam.
Suami mmg la pimpin tangan. Tapi kalau dah dinasihati, terlerai tanggungjawab tu. Ni bkn tanggungjawab sampai masuk syurga sama2 woo... kubur masing2. Jawab soklan mungkar nakir masing2. Dosa pahala sendiri, tade kongsi2. Tak voley play victim dgn suami, melainkan mmg suami melarang utk berhijab dan buat perkara2 wajib. Kalau dihalang membuat yg wajib, si isteri voley membantah sbb kena bertuhankan Allah, bkn bertuhankan suami.
Ingat: jangan salahkan suami semata2 sbb kita tak tau depa dah nasihat ke belum.
Tahrim ayat 10:
Allah sets forth an example for the disbelievers: the wife of Noah and the wife of Lot. Each was married to one of Our righteous servants, yet betrayed them. So their husbands were of no benefit to them against Allah whatsoever. Both were told, “Enter the Fire, along with the others!”
Post time 24-4-2021 02:59 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
Incanto replied at 24-4-2021 02:28 PM
Kalau suami dah didik dan bimbing isteri ( tak kisah mualaf ke tak), maka suami dah selesai tanggg ...
Ini masalahnya, definisi bantuan. Jaman dolu2 takde didikan agama secara meluas voley la ckp. Jaman now, nak jadi mualaf, kena masuk klas, ada interaksi kat masjid dan badan2 islam. Agak sukar nak kata tiada bimbingan dari komuniti Islam.
Kalau yg dah dilahirkan Islam, semua dpt didikan Islam kat skolah. Nikmat mana yg hang nak dustakan lagi?
Taktau la kalau klas utk mualaf ni semua hanya wayangan semata2... sbb klas fardhu ain tu wajib sblm daftar sbg mualaf umo 18 tahun ke atas.
Post time 24-4-2021 04:21 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
Incanto replied at 24-4-2021 04:03 PM
masaalah nya yg masuk Islam sbb nak kawin golongan kayangan ni ada masuk kelas ?
tak kisah lah si ...
Tu haa.. dah bubuh kat reply atas tu.. klas tu wajib. Siapa yg bg bukti tanpa buat klas tu, pandai2 la jawab kat akhirat nnt.
Didikan tu dah ada. Antara depa nak atopon tak. Kemampuan depa utk dpt didikan pun ada. Jgn kata sumer tu takde. Tepuk dada, tanya iman sendiri.
Post time 24-4-2021 01:31 PM
Post time 24-4-2021 01:37 PM
tapi dah cerai dah pun
