Procedure Permohonan Bercerai

kimora

Originally posted by smeetasmitten at 27-1-2008 01:23 AM
aku rasa hubby dia jenis camni.
bila tak de anak, cari gf baru.
dpt sorang anak pompuan, cari gf baru - sbb nak anak lelaki
dpt sepasang cari gf baru sbb rumah bising

selagi dia tak boleh g ...

ha ha betul tu smeet...

zanorba

Tq sayawife...u did light some hope there...

zanorba

Let me up date wt something...
Hb dah decide nak go on for sperm test & support sy for fertility treatment tu (at least dah jimat RM for half the cost). And yesterday, he moved in wt me.

Am i selfish for just wanting a baby of my own w/out taking into consideration the future of the baby (in case i'm pregnant)?

Hb mention that he definately feel guilty if I did pregnant and still go on wt divorce. He admit tht the love for me is stil there and wil confuse himself later upon making decision to choose me or the gf. My reply - Pd sy semuanya tentang hati dan perasaan je...anak cuma sekadar alasan...andai ada anak tp tiada cinta dan sayang hb pd sy, utk apa nak pertahankan perkahwinan ini?

Entahlah...sy rasa hb sememangnya merumitkan keadaan...Salah ke or susah sgt ke nak bertahan untuk 3 bulan lg, tanpa melibatkan org ke-3 ni? Things wil be easier to tackle if there's no 3rd person involved...rite?

zanorba

Dear all...
Help me...i really need to talk to someone...face to face....i cannot carry this burden anymore...but i don't want to involved my family...not yet! Sememangnya mengadu pd Allah tu adalah terbaik...namun pd situasi sy kini, sy ingin juga mengadu pd seseorang...All this is killing me inside!

Lily_Savage

apa kata luahkan pd yr best friend?
mungkin sekadar mendengar saja, tp at least rasa relieve sikit

Lily_Savage

nampak seolah yr hubby still memberi harapan.
mungkin petanda baik, insyaAllah.

Kalau dia still go on, buat tak endah mcm dulu, mmg rasanya kalau saya not worth having a baby wif him.
maybe ada yg lebih baik utk awak selain dia. Hanya Allah yg tahu. Kalau dah buat istikharah tu, ikutlah petunjuk yg Allah bagi. Mungkin melalui rasa hati atau petunjuk2 luar. Kalau x lari dr tu, insyaAllah ada hikmahnya, hanya kita saja yg tak nampak lagi.

vimash

zanorba... vimash rase kes u nie rumit skit ler.... rase mcm hubby u tu tak serius langsung.... still nak go on dgn pompuan2 dier tuh.. :@  cam ni la.... cube la proses kesuburan biodex... mane tau berhasil... n rasenye 99% berhasil....


n,if u preg, n lepas tue deliver ur own child... then hubby u still nak divorce, n ade kemungkinan tak, dia akan rebut hak penjagaan anak dgn u?.... u kene fikir tu jugak.... coz nampak mcm die memerlukan zuriat n gf dijadikan alasan untuk itu.... so, better u solat istikarah ke mintak petunjuk dari Allah... vimash sedih la bace kes u nih... coz nampak mcm pasangan bahagia..... kekdahnye mcm kes erra n yusri nih... pegang tangan ke pejabat agama. sudahnye cerai jugak.... mintak simpang malaikat 44...

Dunhill.

Pegawai agama tu memang lah gumbira sebab kedua2 pihak bekerjasama.. ketawa besar lah dia..

Kurang dia 1 kes hehe.. tp apaponnn cuba lah baiki balik hubungan..

Tak sayang ke ??? Tempat jatuh lagi dikenang inikan pula jatuh di bahu suami.. Fikir fikir lah..

Tapi kalo dah nak bercerai sangat, terpulang lah.. tp mesti ingat, kita ni makin tua bukan makin muda.. dibuatnya sampai mati takda pengganti.. siapa nak jaga makan sakit kita ???

Anak2 pulak mesti dah bawak haluan sundri.. payah nak tgk anak zaman skrg ni jaga mak bapak.. Alamatnya nanti duduk rumah orang orang tua aja lah, itupon kalo bernasib baik.. kalo tak silap2 merempat cari makanan kt dalam tong sampah DBKL..

Dunhill.

Originally posted by manakautau at 24-1-2008 10:42 AM
Bergegar Tiang Arasyh...........

Tepat sekali..

bakawali_04

Originally posted by Dunhill. at 28-1-2008 02:52 PM
Pegawai agama tu memang lah gumbira sebab kedua2 pihak bekerjasama.. ketawa besar lah dia..

Kurang dia 1 kes hehe.. tp apaponnn cuba lah baiki balik hubungan..

Tak sayang ke ??? Tempa ...

entahlah ekk.. tgk nasib jugak kot!! so far masa kes saya.. pegawai agam mmg ok.. even lelaki tapi dia xder pihak mana2.. dari proses kunseling sampai mahkamah.. eveerything smooth.. alhamdulillah..

shashanur

zanorba,

a men will do anything when he wants u and when he dont , no matter what u do will please him.
my hubby left me when i was 5 months pregnant. thou he came back and appologize, i know somehow i'll raise my baby alone. im ready to b a 'single mom'. mmg i ada kesilapan juga, i guess thats y i redha for what happened in d 1st place.

it's been almost a yr now n nothing has changed yet getting worse. he comes n go in my life as he wishes n i've stopped hopping that things will get better. when we argue (when he did come back home which is very rare) he said i was nicer when i  was pregnat. n i told him even then he left me. so my point is no matter what we do, when he already set his mind on other woman, that will b it. b4 ada anak, he wants me to get pregnant ASAp so tht i cant flirt around- or so his said. men will keep on giving excuses to justify their wrong doing. will he admit that he's wrong? very unlikely...

my advise is - think of what u want, for u. for me, if i cant b a good wife 4 him, than let me b a good wife 4 someone else cause i always believe that ALLAh is fair. MAha pengasih lagi penyayang.

good luck to u.

Vvenus

Originally posted by zanorba at 28-1-2008 09:23 AM

Am i selfish for just wanting a baby of my own w/out taking into consideration the future of the baby (in case i'm pregnant)?

Nak tanya..la ni, is that how u feel?
Ko nak pregnant ni, mmg just nak buktikan yg ko leh pregnant ke?
Mmg ko tak pikirkan apa masa depan dia nanti ke in case ko divorce?

Kalau jawapannya ya, pada aku, memang la ko selfish.

zanorba

Originally posted by shashanur at 29-1-2008 12:11 AM
zanorba,

my advise is - think of what u want, for u. for me, if i cant b a good wife 4 him, than let me b a good wife 4 someone else cause i always believe that ALLAh is fair. MAha pengasih lagi penyayang....

Tq sha...this is what i thought so far...
Kalau nak kira 'think of what i want, for myself'- sya mahu seorg lg zuriat, utk diri sy sendiri. While i stil have the chance to do so which is now till 17th April- i'll go for it!
Org boleh kata sy selfish even i sometimes feel so, tp sy lebih fikirkan apa yg sy nak!

Ttg masa depan anak tersebut-i raise my daughter now w/out her father too...& she grown up well-behave & manner.  Sy sendiri ajar dia ilmu dunia & akhirat (selain dr blajar kat sekolah). Apa contribution bapa dia? Jgn kata kasih sayang, nafkah? not even a single cents!

Dan sy percaya ramai lagi ibu2 tunggal yg besarkan anak bukan sorang malah yg byk anak pun ada-and their kids grown up well too-fizikal, emosional, mental & educational!

dukalara

Originally posted by zanorba at 29-1-2008 09:43 AM


Tq sha...this is what i thought so far...
Kalau nak kira 'think of what i want, for myself'- sya mahu seorg lg zuriat, utk diri sy sendiri. While i stil have the chance to do so which is now ...

zainorba..

i thought u takde anak....

jadi tak faham pulak....

Vvenus

Originally posted by zanorba at 29-1-2008 09:43 AM


Tq sha...this is what i thought so far...
Kalau nak kira 'think of what i want, for myself'- sya mahu seorg lg zuriat, utk diri sy sendiri. While i stil have the chance to do so which is now ...

aik..kata ada problem conceive?  7 tahun kawin takde anak sebab tu cari lain?
ke aku yg salah paham nih?  

zanorba

Sorry la Vvenus kalau u confuse..
This is my 2nd marriage laa...The daughter fr 1st marriage (which i been single mum since she's 1 yrs old).

Dgn 2nd ni dah masuk 7 tahun, still x de anak. Coz i pernah mengandung & melahirkan anak sblm ni la yg hb rasa susah nak terima bila dgn dia sy x beranak2 lg (though dan 2 kali gugur).

meow_tompok

Originally posted by zanorba at 29-1-2008 09:43 AM


Tq sha...this is what i thought so far...
Kalau nak kira 'think of what i want, for myself'- sya mahu seorg lg zuriat, utk diri sy sendiri. While i stil have the chance to do so which is now ...

selffish? lantak la selfish tak selfish
ur current hubby pun selfish jugak. asyik nak berkepit dgn gf aje.
kalau saya jadik u, i'll proceed dgn treatment tu.
takkan nak anak sorang aje. kadang2 tu saya tengok program org2 miskin kat malaysia nieh, sian tengok anak sorang aje, kalau die meninggal dulu dari kita, how?
jadi rancangan penambahan seorang lagi zuriat sgt2 saya sokong.
its nothing wrong to be single mom.
wanita yg hidup di zaman skrang
sememangnya harus boleh hidup tanpa lelaki.

kadang2 tak paham kenapa org lelaki tak tahu bertanggungjawab pada zuriat sendiri.
lelaki sebegini sememangnya bagus utk hidup merempat di tepi2 jalan bila dah tua kelak.

tennis

hmmmm....complicatednya kes tuan rumah
tepuk dada tanya iman
jangan tanya selera
buat la keputusan yang tepat

Dunhill.

Originally posted by bakawali_04 at 28-1-2008 04:10 PM


entahlah ekk.. tgk nasib jugak kot!! so far masa kes saya.. pegawai agam mmg ok.. even lelaki tapi dia xder pihak mana2.. dari proses kunseling sampai mahkamah.. eveerything smooth.. alhamdul ...

Bagus lah kalo macam tu.. tgk pegawai syariah jugak lah kot.. yang mana malas nak panjang cerita (sebab banyak kes atau dia tahu buat apa nak dipertahan) memang lah dia kasi proses cepat.. Yang mana yg rajin tu mungkin gunakan sedikit kuasanya menyuruh pasangan berkenaan pergi kaunseling terlebih dahulu..

Mungkin juga saya silap..

bakawali_04

Originally posted by Dunhill. at 29-1-2008 09:44 PM


Bagus lah kalo macam tu.. tgk pegawai syariah jugak lah kot.. yang mana malas nak panjang cerita (sebab banyak kes atau dia tahu buat apa nak dipertahan) memang lah dia kasi proses cepat.. Ya ...

kalau kat jb nie.. aper2 permohonan pun dinasihatkan melalui proses kaunseling..
siap ader pra kaunseling.. pegawai agama akan kasi ceramah n discuss dgn kita..
actually mcm mana permohonan itu boleh dibuat n kategori mana..
ia memudahkan kapada pihak isteri utk tau sebenarnya aper yang mereka kena tau n kena buat..
mmglah pegawai agama tu x mengalakkan perceraian tapi atleast dgn ader penerangan.. pra kaunseling..
setiap pasangan tau hak masing2 n memudahkan urusan permohonan cerai. .. xlah makan bertahun2..
tapi atleast proses semua makan bulan la..