Salam warga cari, boleh tak bg sy pendapat what should I do.
Sy dah berkahwin dan mempunyai seorang anak. Dah 3 tahun berkahwin tp masih bergaduh besar sampai nak bercerai. Sy tahu sy ada anger management tapi suami selalu trigger kemarahan sy.
Suami seorang yg pentingkan family dia, apa2 keputusan dia akan berbincang dgn family dia tanpa sy. Sy hanya tahu dr mulut org atau terdengar perbualan dorg. Suami dah bg jawapan atau keputusan,so even sy x setuju I had not choice. Even untuk anak, sy tak boleh nk buat keputusan. I dont have the right as mother. I nak hantar anak ke taska/tadika, they will argue my decision and suami tak backup I pun. Thats what hurt me the most.
We don't have the best communication. It's either I buat decision or him buat decision. Mmg susah nk ada good conversation or communications. Lama2 situasion nie buat kan I tawar hati. Everytime bergaduh, i kesian dekat anak sbb she witness every arguments, tengking2. I tahu I torture mental dia. I dah nekad nk bercerai. Sbb I xnak jad isteri yg derhaka. Dan I rasa I dah tak ada perasaan. What should I do?
Post time 11-1-2019 12:10 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
Good husbands are hard to find. So are good wives. Almost everyone yang I kenal have issues with their spouses. Tapi from what I observe usually both sides yg salah. So work on ur own flaws before u expect others to work on theirs. Cerai is not an option just yet. Unless the husband gets violent with u and anak then get external help. Good luck
Post time 12-1-2019 03:54 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
Yr title say love not there anymore. But all you write is about miscommunication. I think yr real problem is communication but deep in yr heart you love husband and your family.
Agree that divorce shouldn't be yr option but improve on yr communication and yr relationship first.
Post time 12-1-2019 10:23 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
Tehaisfav replied at 12-1-2019 09:16 AM
You give me a positive vibe. I'm tearing up. So true what you said. Thank you for your advice.
Kalau masih boleh tearing up over this issue maknanya tt masih syg lg family tt. Love is still there.
Kahwin ni mcm pokok. Kena baja..kena siram. So dia akan terus hidup. Tt dan suami kena bincang. U two are a team. Dia tak boleh ketepikan tt bila buat apa2 keputusan dlm family.
Post time 14-1-2019 08:52 PMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
3 tahun masih dlm honeymoon phase lg. Bersabar la dgn kerenah laki tu. Bersabar bertahan bertenang.
Org lelaki kalau kita berlembut dia akan berlembut juga. Kalau kita berkeras dia lagi keras dr batu.
Post time 16-1-2019 11:12 AMFrom the mobile phone|Show all posts
Kalau suami anda sangat baik dan tidak berbaloi untuk dilepaskan, cuba cari jalan penyelesaian lain. Sekarang, bukan senang nak jumpa lelaki yang baik dan bertanggungjawab. Selalunya, bila dia anak yang baik pada ibubapa, dia boleh jadi suami yang baik pada kita. Tempoh yang masih baru, mungkin dia belum sesuaikan diri antara tanggungjawab seorang anak dengan suami. Cuba listkan kebaikan dia dan keburukan dia dalam semua aspek. Kalau kekurangan dia masih dalam situasi boleh dikawal, mengapa perlu runtuhkan satu institusi keluarga.
Thank you so much for the advice...Will try to transform myself first...I akan try berbincang elok2..bincang halatuju rumah tangga..sbb kesian dekat anak...not so healthy for her mental kan...
Post time 11-1-2019 11:24 AM
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