leadership for kids

my-alja

salam mak/ayah...

cemana nak didik anak2 dgn kualiti kepimpinan sejak mereka masih kecil...apa tu kualiti kepimpinan?

bukan nak fokus anak jadi CEO kat MNC, tapi jadi pemimpin utk diri sendiri dan rakan sebaya ...sudah memadai utk mereka sekarang...mudah-mudahan kualiti nie berkembang sampai dia bekeluarga...

w/pun anak2 kita lebih kepada follower type...tapi kuliaiti nie sgt penting utk menjamin mereka dlm keluarga nanti...

care to share

my-alja

no one cares...

sari_apot

leadership... hmmm saya pun baru terfikir....

anak2 kita perlukan sesuatu yang menjadi kebanggaan diri , barulah dia boleh tunjukkan leadershipnya... cth, result sekolah bagus... kerja sekolah bagus... cikgu sekolah selalu puji...

mcm my daughter, takde lah bagus sgt leadershipnye (std 1) but as a mother, i let her be herself n tegur sikit2 mane yang salah tu...
saya cube2 kan lah dia supaya beranikan diri cakap dgn orang dengan ayat n intonasi yang betul,
cara makan yang sopan,
jalan jgn seret kaki,
tulisan biar cantik sikit,
how to be proud of her self,
jgn nampak selekeh....
solat right on time.... (yang ni kena marah dia sikit)

nampak macm mak yang cerewet kan??... tapi sebenarnye kita jgn marah dia, kita tegur n bagi sebab kenape saye tak kasi dia buat mcm tu... so sikit sebanyak tu bantulah dia... tapi jgn sampai jadi terlalu stress!!!

my-alja

kecik lagi dan byk lagi yg perlu diasuh dan dibentuk....kita yg tua nie, blom lulus ujian kelayakkan kepimpinan(kalo ada)..inikan pula anak2

me lihat dlm melatih individu menonjolkan diri sebagai pemimpin...dia kena balajar suka jadi diri dia dulu...tu sebab pra-syarat akedemik saja tak mencukupi ..bayangkan budak2 yg kurang menonjol dlm akedemik?adakah mereka juga kurang ada kualiti kepimpinan...

to like urslef and to behave like one...is the first indicator of being a leader(my personal opinion lah)

sari_apot

setuju bangat... nak ade leadership ni bukan boleh di ajar2 mcm dapt degree...
yelah our kids kena tau kekuatan n kelemahan diri... bukan dalam semua aspek kita bleh jadi leader...
as a parents kita just bagi basic education, mcm akademik, agama n penampilan diri...
identiti kena carik sendiri... kita cuma bleh kasi support untuk anak2...

kadg2 dlm kelas saya, sy surh my student jadi teacher... ade yang bleh buat, ade yang tak tau nak ckp ape... tapi bile duduk kat tpt sendiri, suara bleh plak kuat!!

my-alja

kita selalu fikir kalo cakap pasal leader nie, mesti nak jadi CEO ....jadi me nak kita fokuskan pd keperluan anak2 saja...cukuplah setakat dia tahu, yg dia boleh lead kawan2 yg sebaya dan boleh ditolak ketepi-tengah jika keadaan memerlukan...

apa seranan u , nak ajar anak dapatkan jati diri ...memang ilmu nie tak diajar dan ada mak/ayah tak rasa pun keperluan dlm diri anak2..

kongsi sari...

HOTlips

he he... i do care!  Cuma kurang knowledge pasal ni. Why don't u proceed? Boleh me belajar.
Baru2 ni hubby baru habis training on self mastery which also can be applied to raising up kids such as how to put +ve values dlm anak2. Well, me sedang study ni nak apply kat anak2.
Hubby plak kata x boleh dgn study je. Kena ada someone explain. Nanti x faham. Ceh! mentang2 la dia yg pergi training tu. Nak tunggu dia explain, ntah bila la. BZ je memanjang.

HOTlips

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sari_apot

leadership ni bukan setakat kita jadi leader utk org lain... first of all kena pandai lead diri sendiri dulu ke jln yang betul... kalau tak tu yang jadi leader group yang bkn2 tu... for kids kita kena byk exposekan diorg dlm bab leadership ni... kita bleh belikan buku2 yang ade nilai2 murni... share together what is the moral of the stories... n kita kena make sure dia tau ape yang dimaksudkan dgn leadership... takut nanti terlalu push diorg akan jadi bossy plak...

kenalkan diorg kat tokoh2 sejarah kita, mcm mane diorg bleh berjaya n all that... mcm i sampai skang i suke le sape2 wanita yang berjaya dlm hidup... as for me , sy ajar anak saya utk carik nilai2 murni dlm setiap perkara... kenape org gaduh, mcm mane nak elakkan dr gaduh, n ajar dia jadi sabar... so that bile kita in stress kita boleh berfikir, jgn cepat gelabah...

leadership mmg penting, kalau tak mcm mane dia nak bwk diri mase dah besar nanti... betul tak??

KakFie

Nak cerita pasal leadership panjang ni.....  Sikit2 dulu ....

Bagi akak, leadership skill penting sangat sekarang ni yup...bukan sebab nak depa jadi CEO...kalau jadi alhamdulillah.  Tapi yang penting untuk depa break themselves away from peer pressure and have their own principles/values.  Itu yang penting.   
Perumpamaan orang Melayu kita "Biarlah kita jadi ikan di laut...walaupun airnya masin tapi ikan tak masin".  BLEND BUT DONT BEND.

Daripada observation akak dengan anak-anak sendiri dan jugak anak-anak orang lain, sesetengah kids memang ada natural leadership skills...they are born leaders....outspoken, confident, charismatic etc.  Tapi sesetengah anak memang kita kena coach/train supaya dia boleh acquire the skills.  Even kita orang tua pun ada leadership seminar dan sewaktu dengannya....budak-budak pun kena coach jugak.

HOTlips

mencari nilai2 murni dlm setiap perkara.

Setuju! Sekarang ni pun dlm subjek BM ada satu bhg yg meminta murid2 list down nilai2 murni yg ada dlm karangan yg diberi. I think this is very good.
My eldest perangai dia agak kasar. Suka kacau dan bergaduh dgn adik2 dia. Tp Alhamdulillah, so faaar cikgu x pernah mengadu dia buat masalah kat sekolah. So, one day I told him "Jgn jadi bacul, tunjuk "terror" kat budak2 kecik" Ni pun sebab me dah marah sgt.
Nak jadi cerita few days lepas tu dia sudah pergi kejar sorang boys std 6 dan that boy memang jauh lebih besar dr dia. Dia kejar that boy sampai rumah. Sebabnya dia minta dat boy pulangkan semula kad pokemon yg budak tu ambik tanpa izin dia. After that he goes... "umi ingat abg x berani ke?"
Last 2 days balik dr sekolah, dia cerita kat me dia pergi tegur sorang cikgu lelaki yg sedang merokok di dlm kws sekolah. Katanya pd dat teacher "Cikgu, kalau guru kencing berdiri, anak murid kencing berlari. Jadi kalau cikgu merokok, x heranlah kalau murid2 merokok jugak"
And I was like..... mmm... betul ke anak aku ni? Berani dia tegur cikgu tu? Terfikir jugak adakah ini satu tindakan yg wajar atau kurang ajar?

midori88

aku setuju..sesetengah budak memang ada natural leadership skills..

my-alja

wahhhh...i like ur insight on this subject

me pernah jumpa sorang anak lelaki yg baru berusia 5thn dgn karektor sorang pemimpin....so please to talk and to know him, really a natural leader...one day, i met his daddy...wow!!!..no wonder...

me rasa kan k.fie..anak2 kena tgk contoh leader depan mata dia...peranan ayah dirumah amat penting utk anak2 membesar, idola depan mata

sari_apot

betul tu... contoh utama kanak2 adalah parents nye... bila dah besar skit dia akan bandingkan antara parents and teachers...

perilaku parents tu penting utk anak2...

KakFie

Originally posted by my-alja at 27-7-2007 07:31 PM
wahhhh...i like ur insight on this subject

me pernah jumpa sorang anak lelaki yg baru berusia 5thn dgn karektor sorang pemimpin....so please to talk and to know him, really a natu ...

exactly...parents are THE BESTEST role model and tutor.

yantisa

Anak sulung Kak Yan ada talent meminpin , mula dengan adik2 , then sebagai pengawas kat sekolah...boleh diharap kalau disuruh itu ini...boleh berkomunikasi dengan baik dan berani.

yang lagi 3 tu belum nampak lagi..

AnitaSabrina

My opinion on Leadership is that it encompasses every facet of our lives.  Its not just merely teaching children leadership skils by rote.  For me I try to impart my knowledge to my sons not just verbally but by action as well.  Its not enough for them to excel academically (which is paramount) but to also have a high EQ.  They should have empathy to others.  I want them to be leaders in thinking out of the box.  

The other day my son (11 years) said to me why is it so difficult to cross the roads here in Malaysia?  Is it like this in other countries?  This after reading about yet another child being knocked (fatal accident) crossing the road - balik mengaji Quran.

That got us on a research mode to find out what is it like overseas.  We discovered that in the UK, children can very easlily walk to their school, park etc simply because the planners have made allocation for children's requirement.  Kids will be kids - their are naturally curious.  Just the sight of a cat will make them lose focus and they would instinctively go to the cat without looking out for dangers.  Why can't our planners (JKR and such) do the same for our children here?  Why can't the powers that be make the roads in Malaysia safe for all children?

I do hope that our children will all be leaders in their chosen fields and make this world a better place.   Our architecture needs a revamp - those high-rise buildings need a re-think in their designs (too many children have fallen to death just simply looking for their mommies!)..... the list goes on.

HOTlips

Why can't our planners (JKR and such) do the same for our children here?

Ah ha! Because they r JKR (Jabatan Kejar Rasuah). No money no talk!

Why can't the powers that be make the roads in Malaysia safe for all children?

Not only for children. They don't even care about disable people and moms like me who don't drive a car but a stroller!

Ok, just had a discussion with hubby on leadership. To him. It's simple. Rasulullah saw is the best example. The most succesfull leader. Recognized and respected by all. If we muslims follow his teachings, his akhlaks, InsyaAllah we will produce  good leaders in any discipline.

So, what r the values in Rasulullah saw that made him a good leader?
1. Siddiq
2. Fatanah
3. Amanah
4. Tabligh

sikit2 dulu. will continue later...

my-alja

erm...gud intro hot...sambung lagi

my-alja

IQ + EQ = SQ

setengah org memang ada kelebihan SQ secara semulajadi, begitu jugak dgn IQ dan EQ... and hafta admit, i also "merangkak" to master all of these