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nak minta nasihat ttg poligami/ hidup bermadu..
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Assalamualaikum semua..
Tak lama lagi hubby akan diijabkabulkan dgn bakal madu...tapi.....
Hati sy terlalu sedih..risau..kdg2 rasa seram sejuk..huhuhuu~
Hati sentiasa tertanya tanya..mungkinkah bahagia masih akan kekal bila dah hidup bermadu ni?? Sy ragu2 dgn kasih sayang hubby..jujur ker? ikhlas ker dgn kami anak branak? huhuhu..honestly, sy masih blur dgn keadaan yg mnimpa..
Klu boleh, sy nak sangat terima hidup ni seadanya..seriously! sb sy tak nak stress stiap hari..huhuhu
Jd, sy nak minta NASIHAT yg betul2 boleh mind set dkt sy pasal hidup bermadu ni..sy nak ada unsur2 islam diterapkan dlm nasihat tu..bleh bagi nasihat tak? kasi nasihat smpi sy boleh terima keadaan ni..yang betul2 boleh buatkan hidup sy kembali ceria mcm dulu..plsss...nasihatkan saya..huhuhu~huhu tolongg~~ |
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oh Tuhan.... baiknya kaka...
blur kjp, sat nanti In reply semula... |
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Reply #3 indah1285's post
heheheh................well .....napa tak bagi those gentlemen yg jawab jugak? sbb i nak tengok apa depa nak cakap...............
macam nilah Puan, are working? anak anak elok elok semua ker?
well dear,
i must say that you are indeed a strong lady and well it's ok. You probably sad i gather that . But you know something, get yourself focus on things that matters to you like
a) anak - anak - be with them , see them grow before your eyes, trasure them
b) sabaq- because hey ...you are in God's focus so ...this is interesting
c) akak boleh lah fokus pada kegiatan apa yg akak rasa nak buat tapi tak berkesempatan dulu like further study ker , gi kelas apa apa ker u know keep yourself busy - sebab i tak nak u feel left out and negleted,
d) layan i know it is hurting , it's difficult but try layan suami as biasa juga - he just having another lady - u know and that 's his problem NOT yours ....so sabaq lah ...at least dia tak buat dosa....kalau dia dah communicate dgn you atas alasan apa di anak kahwin tu at least in a way u know he respect you at least lah as a wife. So bagus jugak dia terus terang.
e) be close to God - sebab you know deep down kan dekat dia jugak kita sembah, He knows you - He LOVES you and Dia dah tahu setakat mana nilai kesabaran you. So Love him More...so pujuk hati but bit by bit REDHA..lagi pun Puan you tentu tak nak kalah dgn emosi dan mesti nak pass ujian ni dgn flying colours , kan?So there must be something that is good within you , and you ARE STRONGER THAN THIS....so focus on your strength and redha lah .... cuba sikit sikit apa apa pun love HIM more.
~ actually, alamak lagi i takut kahwin dgn malay man ni...
[ Last edited by mbhcsf at 8-4-2009 00:09 ] |
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In..akak tak tau lah..rasanya akak dah redha kot..mmg akak benarkan hubby kawen lain..huhuhu tp tu la, klu hubungan tu didahului dgn kecurangan..mmg hati tak tentram. Andai kata dulu hubby minta izin bebaik, hati ni tak la risau sangat..tp ni tak..huhuhu tu pasal ragu2 jer dgn keikhlasan hubby..
Hari2 akak berdoa agar hati ni terbuka utk terima kenyataan yg hubby masih sygkan akak..tp masih tak dpt terima lah..ragu2 tu masih kuat..
Hari2 jg akak berdoa agar hati ni terbuka utk terima keadaan yg berlaku.. <---yg ni ok sket la..tp pandai muncul perasaan tak baik tu..huhuhu
tak per la In..akak hargai jg nasihat In tu
atleast dpt jg kita sembang mlm2 buta ni 
anybody please?? bagi la nasihat..huhuhu |
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Reply #3 indah1285's post
kita jgn guna tissue yer dalam thread ni ker you think? |
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Reply #5 darkness's post
hey dear ...God is seeing you, He knows you ...so doa banyakbanyak , nak nangis nangislah atas tikaq sembahyang , nangislah .tak per He knows you pun .....baca Quran yer.....tenangkan hati tapi kalau baca pun air mata bergenang pause sat. then sambung balik, istighfar bebanyak, ok.
Talk to someone. Please talk.
[ Last edited by mbhcsf at 8-4-2009 00:22 ] |
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eh eh ...yournick - boleh ler tukaq darkness to brightness...nur ker aper ker ... |
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Reply #8 indah1285's post
u takut nak kahwin ? u okay kot i yg nyilu trauma i tengok Malay guy ni treat their wife....u know something In, to be the person who is FACING the music......it really hurts...mmg zahir tak teucap pun...masa tu u numb you know.......you numb actually, but you sedih tau...tapi ada tuu Allah tolong  you mmg feel HIS help. |
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Originally posted by mbhcsf at 8-4-2009 00:06 
heheheh................well .....napa tak bagi those gentlemen yg jawab jugak? sbb i nak tengok apa depa nak cakap...............
macam nilah Puan, are working? anak anak elok elok semua ker ...
huhu this is what i want..
mbhcsf, fyi..
1) anak2 masih kecil..InsyaAllah, sy yakin anak2 tak lah ambil negatif pasal ayahnya kawen lain satu hari nanti..sb, sy tak pernah buruk2 kan hubby dpn mata dorang...
2) Im not working..tp tak lama lagi dah nak buka bakery..InsyaAllah..
heheh~ Alhamdulilah, sejak hubby ada hubungan dgn pompuan lain..kami tak pernah perang besar..klu gaduh pun, sikit2 jer..pastu ok dah..
tp tu la, mmg masih sedih sedikit..huhuhu pujuk diri sendiri jer skg ni..
thanks dgn komen awk tu..berguna sgt2..huhuh |
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Reply #5 darkness's post
kalo dia da curang.... dr berbuat dosa, baiklah dia kawen...  (In rasa cm In lak nak kena madu )
In duk peratikan, skrg duk didik anak, hantar anak skolah, tuisyen, ngaji... bla bla... ibu2lah yg byk berkorban bukan bapa2 :@ lepas tu depa salahkan ibu2 sbb xbg perhatian kat depa itu yg depa jatuh cintan lg...  kenyataan yg sungguh kejam :@ :@
lalu depa senang2 mau kwen lg sbb dh terjatuh cinta dan itukan hak depa ada 3 ruang kosong yg menunggu utk diisi.... anak2 lak? ada isteri yg dah cukup setia berbuat demikian, depa xde sakit2 kepala nk mikir psl anak... cuma mikir psl isteri baru ajek, nk duk mana nanti, sewa umah ke bali... bla bla....
betullah kata Da, cinta lelaki cm tissu ... (erk.. nk letak brand pe lak Da?..huhuu)
akak... sabar ek, In benar2 tak reti nk ckp cmne dah... tp akak memang sabar orgnya, kalo tak Allah tak uji akak dgn semua ni.... |
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Reply #10 mbhcsf's post
memang Zahir Tak Terucap.... cam rangkap lagu ker tajuk lagu ek...
betullah Da, setiap kita dalam kesusahan, Allah akan hantar bantuan .. Dia kasih akan hamba2NYA... |
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Reply #11 darkness's post
my pleasure but keep your focus. Be strong sebab u know you ought to and you must tapi jaga anak anak elok elok . They are your assests. Nak doakan you poun depa lah kelak nanti. Make sure depa tahu siapa their "mommy".
Anyway - yes bakery is good...yep good stay focus. You know life is all about learning, so now you learn this and the more you learn, the more you grow to be a mature, strong lady. |
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Originally posted by mbhcsf at 8-4-2009 00:17
u takut nak kahwin ? u okay kot i yg nyilu trauma i tengok Malay guy ni treat their wife....u know something In, to be the person who is FACING the music......it really hurts...mmg zahir tak teu ...
thats true! 
Allah maha mengetahui apa yg terbaik utk umat2Nya.. |
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Reply #15 indah1285's post
ada lagu kan?
kan ? kan ada frasa tu kan?
zahir tak terucap....
then who is ZAHIr ?
hahahhhaaha |
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yep i agreed Indah oi pasal harga sehelai tissue...Kleenex oops whoopsy daisy |
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Post time 7-4-2009 11:38 PM
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