Adakah aku harus kahwin lagi..

sirri_khafi · Post time 30-3-2009 02:33 PM

itulah yg tidak menjadi ILMU kanda

WALLAHU A'LAM...

niceghost2005 · Post time 30-3-2009 02:44 PM

Originally posted by aruni_dadykuzz at 28-3-2009 10:13
Sorry dah lama I tak update...

Cuma I rasa I tak nak proceed lagi dengan si A....

Its not easy....

Walaupun dalam mimpi I nampak si A.

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Besok I akan bertemu ...

Assalamualaikum aruni,

Teman ada satu ceghiter.

Satu ari ada seorg anak sedang berehat rehat dgn bapa nya di anjung ghumah.
Tetiba kedengaran penjual ais krim membunyikan hon mu2 nya sambil melaung laung 'ais krim, ais krim............'
Dia pung apa lagi...............terus meminta dari bapa nya wang sebanyak RM2.20 utk beli ais krim Kornetto.
Ayah nya pun menyeluk poket lalu memberikan wang sebanyak Rm2.20 kepada anak nya itu.

Anak tersebut terus lari dan menahan penjual ais krim tersebut.
Dgn riang gumbira dier pun membuka pembalut ais krim kornetto dan menjilat nya sambil berjalan.
Tup tup..............dia tersepak batu lalu jatuh tertiarap.
Ais krim kornetto nya pung jatuh ke bumi bercampur dgn pasir dan batu.
Dia menangis lalu terus pergi berjumpa dgn ayah nya.

Kerana kasihankan anak nya itu............ayahnya mengeluarkan RM2.20 lagi utk membeli ais krim kornetto sebagai ganti.

Anak tersebut tersenyum dan terus berlari ke arah penjual ais krim tersebut dan meminta satu lagi ais krim kornetto.
Penjual ais krim tersebut memberi nya dan menasihati nya agar berhati hati.......

Anak tersebut mengiyakan nya.....
Dia terus membuka pembalut dan memakan nya.

Hampir 30% ais krim tersebut di makan nya...........
Tiba tiba dia tersepak tunggul kayu...............lalu jatuh bersama sama ais krim nya tadi.
Kali ini ais krim tersebut terjatuh di atas taik kucing.

Menangis lah anak kecil ini...................
Berlari lah ia kpd ayah nya.
Meminta agar di gantikan..........................

Agak agak komer laaa.................adakah si ayah akan menggantikan ais krim tersebut buat kali ke 2 ???

Insyaallah..........
"Haaaaah.................nah duit nya.!!! Lain kali jaga betul betul. Jangan lok lak sangat!!!" kata ayah nya sedikit keras.

Amacam aruni??
Ada faham akan maksud yg tersirat di atas???

Kalau miker udah buat solat hajat or istiqarah dan mendapat 'KEPUTUSAN' dari Allah swt, TURUTI sahaja.
Kalau takmo ikut....................lain kali JANGAN minta 'KEPUTUSAN' dari NYA.

Waallahua'lam

eastrun · Post time 30-3-2009 03:53 PM

ye ke kanda...takkan la kanda nak mengaku kat sini kalau ye pun..

mbhcsf · Post time 30-3-2009 04:17 PM

what is it?

apa kesilapan tu?

alaaa suspens nyer

watie_na · Post time 30-3-2009 04:19 PM

mcm saya ckp kat board lain.
kalau x buat maksiat, tak akan ada niat awak nak kahwin lain. betul tak?
apa pun terpulanglah kerana nanti bukan satu saja hati yang terluka. jgn nanti yang ada dilepas dan yang baru dpt rupa2 kaca bukan permata. mana tahu kalau si pertama izinkan kahwin, tiba2 yang kedua buat perangai, suruh ceraikan yg pertama la, jadi queen control la, cemburu la. kalau tak kuat iman dan agama, jgn cuba.

mbhcsf · Post time 30-3-2009 04:19 PM

sebab tu kena bawa budak tu pi makan ice cream kat KLCC....

gigabite · Post time 30-3-2009 04:29 PM

ape kesilapan itu?

mom2003 · Post time 30-3-2009 04:37 PM

salam,

memang suspen jek dengan short 'update' tuan rumah, tapi apa-apa pun.. redha dan serah pada Allah SWT. Ada orang jodoh tak panjang, ada sampai ke akhir hayat dan ada juga yang 'banyak' jodoh. Semua sudah tertulis sejak azali. Kesian pula kat dilema tuan rumah (including wife & Lady A).

Harap-harap kita semua lebih dekat padaNya dan berdoa agar diberi petunjuk dan hidayah menempuh segala dugaan di DUNIA ini.

mbhcsf · Post time 30-3-2009 09:42 PM

Originally posted by eastrun at 30-3-2009 14:05
baik2...orang yang ada ilmu tinggi, banyak bacaan ayatnya yang boleh digunakan untuk meluluhkan hati adinda...hanya dia perlu mengetahui siapakah adinda tuan punya badan.

well..the thing is that adinda probably sesuai kot digandingkan dgn a lady yg you know berdiplomasi, sopan, lemah - lembut, lemah gemalai , yg cakap ya ..ya ya.. you know.....that sort lah. Judging from his opinions, views, the way his thinking are, that potrait of a lady ( cewah jadi Nicole Kidman pulak ) .. mmg suit Sirri's taste lah.

sirri_khafi · Post time 30-3-2009 10:30 PM

mana u tau i punya taste nih ? nih yg i suka dgn pompuan yg paham jiwa lelaki mcm u nih

but, i suka ladies yg berbeza pendapat dgn i kerana PERBEZAAN PENDAPAT itu adalah SUNNATULLAH & FITRAH yg di jadikan oleh ALLAH kpd manusia... so, i xder masaalah berbeza pendapat dgn pasangan i asalkan tidak berkaitan soal USUL ( dasar islam ) a.k.a AQIDAH...

i pun dah mula bosan dgn satu pndapat jer ( maknanya single lah tuh ), & i dah sedia nak merumitkan hidup i dgn adanya
PENDAPAT 2 LAIN ( ada pasangan la tuh ).

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WALLAHU A'LAM.........

mbhcsf · Post time 30-3-2009 11:14 PM

masalh dgn your type ni ....senang veto ler kan? so you probably wanted to keep your option open...

for me beza pendapat is ok i am open about it depends kita nak discuss ttg apa ( i tak suka use teh word argue = it 's too negative) tapi tulah kalau dah salah fakta sangat ni...tu yg ada sikit masalah....

mbhcsf · Post time 30-3-2009 11:15 PM

eh eh tapi i SUKA pendapat I ...

i tak bosan lagi dgn pendapat I....

tobby · Post time 31-3-2009 12:23 AM

Originally posted by aruni_dadykuzz at 10-3-2009 01:27
Salam..

Aku berumur 33 tahun. Bekerja di salah satu syarikat gergasi di Malaysia. Aku sudah berumah tangga hampir 6 tahun. Kehidupan pada tahap awal amat bahagia. Tahun ketiga aku mengambil an ...

budaya kat Msia ni memang pandang serong org yg nikah dua, walaupun mrk tak abaikan tanggungjwb. klu kat negara arab, kawin dua ni perkara biasa. it is common.

kat msia consider kadang-kadanggg......jarang-jaranggg..... sbb bukan culture org melayu. klu kawin dua ramai yg pandang serong, di anggap kuat nafsu.

aruni_dadykuzz · Post time 31-3-2009 02:27 AM

Originally posted by niceghost2005 at 30-3-2009 14:44

Assalamualaikum aruni,

Teman ada satu ceghiter.
Kalau miker udah buat solat hajat or istiqarah dan mendapat 'KEPUTUSAN' dari Allah swt, TURUTI sahaja.
Kalau takmo ikut....................lain kali JANGAN minta 'KEPUTUSAN' dari NYA.

TQ Mr Nice...

Laluan I mungkin agak sukar.... untuk diteruskan.... atau mungkin belum sampai masa nya lagi...

Pasrah..

aruni_dadykuzz · Post time 31-3-2009 02:48 AM

Salam

Pertemuan dengan si A berjalan lancar seperti dirancang. Perbualan di mulakan oleh si A. walaupun si A tidak tahu tujuan

pertemuan I dengan nya. Dia happy asyik menceritakan semangat dia untuk belajar dan juga mengejar untuk anugerah dekan

bagi sem ini.

I mengiya sahaja, coz memang I tahu result dia selalu highest setakat ini.

Tiba-tiba dia cakap family dia nak jumpa I. Memang diluar jangkaan I.Tujuan perjumpaan dengan family dia adalah untuk

berkenalan dan untuk mengikat tali pertuanangan.

I menolak dan memberi alasan yang agak bagi I kurang munasabah. Si A masih dapat menerima alasan I.

Tapi I tak terfikir persoalan ini akan timbul. Pertemuan selama 2 jam berakhir dengan tiada kata putus.

Si A akan hadapi exam yg akan berakhir bulan Mei ini. So I tak sanggup berterus terang lagi buat masa ini.

Mungkin selepas exam ini I akan bertemu lagi.

Sekian.....

mbhcsf · Post time 31-3-2009 06:05 AM

A is a student?
still a UNi student?

dean's list ? eer which field? may i know - just curious? engineering? calculus?

mbhcsf · Post time 31-3-2009 06:35 AM

well Sdr,

For one, I do not find it surprising for her to arrange a holy matrimony deal with you as you are somebody important to her - who knows her inside out - So for another guy to (well may be I think she is thinking of acceptance ) be very acceptance of her status probably slim kot in the future . So, you are a good catch.

But lurking somewhere within my mischievous mind ni I would be may be too over analysing pulak kot
a) for a lady of 22 and as you said she is brainy- well I 'd say a British student pun would be thinking - if this gentleman ( means : YOU) in front of me is facing a crisis or an heir now, what am I gonna do?

a) am I offering an aid of him marrying me?- that 's convenient, eh?

b) FORSAKEN ALL the rest - i takisah dia ada wife but fikir ttg I dulu? ( hmm so good for a brainy student tak thinking on the welfare of others !!) so sorry my saying that it appears to me that she is quite "ASTUTE"
c) ask this gentleman to seek advice first to help the wife?

You know I like to be honest as communication is important - apa yg i  terasa ialah her inability to even i dunno  understanding about your situation - like hello - i am dealing with married man , he has no child as yet - should i butt in? or DO NO  HARM?/

d) Sdr i think as you said- her future is bright insya ALLAH ( economy gawat ni MOHE pun suruh buat PHD terus jer  hehehh) so may be in the future you could doa ker . motivate her to see the world in a wider scope...she needs to see the world tapi well with kekuatan iman lah kot.... ( takut ler pulak kan kalau she leads astray ) kumpulkan kekuatan  itu dulu and i think her embedded fear of her past will eventually shedding off lah kot . INSYA ALLAH.
sooner or later nanti ada kot SPECIAL  partner kat Uni? i mean..i am wondering

e) Takkan dia tak pernah terfikir pun sekelumit pun yg depan aku ni is a married man, his has a wife for god sake? ini yg psychosocial aspect of human life she faild to "see"...well a  so much for a dean's list , eh? sorry being cynical a bit.

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mbhcsf · Post time 31-3-2009 06:39 AM

Sometimes I feel that this thread is like

"THE TRUMAN SHOW"

aruni_dadykuzz · Post time 31-3-2009 12:13 PM

Originally posted by mbhcsf at 31-3-2009 06:35
well Sdr,

a) am I offering an aid of him marrying me?- that 's convenient, eh?
b) FORSAKEN ALL the rest - i takisah dia ada wife but fikir ttg I dulu?( hmm so good for a brainy student tak thinking on the welfare ofothers !!) so sorry my saying that it appears to me that she is quite"ASTUTE"
c) ask this gentleman to seek advice first to help the wife?

Forsaken all the rest/ she is quite astute. Sorry memang melampau....

You know I like to be honest as communication is important - apa ygi  terasa ialah her inability to even i dunno  understanding about yoursituation - like hello - i am dealing with married man , he has nochild as yet - should i butt in? or DO NO  HARM?/ [/quote]

I tahu, dia masih mentah, maybe u dont know her situation right now. Tapi I pun belum explain sepenuh nya lagi.... untuk dia lebih memahami...

d) Sdr i think as you said- her future is bright insya ALLAH ( economygawat ni MOHE pun suruh buat PHD terus jer  hehehh) so may be in thefuture you could doa ker . motivate her to see the world in a widerscope...she needs to see the world tapi well with kekuatan iman lahkot.... ( takut ler pulak kan kalau she leads astray ) kumpulkankekuatan  itu dulu and i think her embedded fear of her past willeventually shedding off lah kot . INSYA ALLAH.
sooner or later nanti ada kot SPECIAL  partner kat Uni? i mean..i am wondering [/quote]

This part I setuju.... to find special partner soon or later.
She leads astry...... hopefully tak la.....

e) Takkan dia tak pernah terfikir pun sekelumit pun yg depan aku ni isa married man, his has a wife for god sake? ini yg psychosocial aspectof human life she faild to "see"...well a  so much for a dean's list ,eh? sorry being cynical a bit.
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Dah nak buat macam mana dia jumpa I . Terbuka pintu hati nya pada I. Dengan keadaan dia yang penuh dengan masalah tiba tiba I muncul. I pun tak mintak terjerumus dalam nie.

Its ok... this is not a final yet..

But your cynical not a bit.... Im sad

mbhcsf · Post time 31-3-2009 01:43 PM

yes Sdr,
i think i may be a bit too far off but i jut said : IT APPEARS to me bukan i said that she is

okay now talk to us/me

which bit that we DO NOT UNDERstand about her situation?

so far have you noticed Sdr, yang you just mentioned about her past  but not on her current situation and so far i tak pernah nampak you tulis that '
"A knows that i am married....and she would think that ......."
at least to me the word think...tu is an important verb..rasanya MRSM student depa ajaq kemahiran berfikir  i know i had one... so
now to be fair on her and you seemed to be a bit on her defense, pray tell...what's the situation?

supaya i tak judge on her ..... so yeap you are right i am melampau...a bit that's why i said sorry. But at least i telling my honest opinion and good you have said i need to weigh down her sitaution first. So, now , my asking - what 's her situation?

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