Perlukah poligami?

manakautau · Post time 10-10-2008 11:39 AM

Originally posted by pilot at 10-10-2008 11:34 AM
gitu la nasib somi yg nak poli...kena jadi cth cam rasulullah tp para isterinya pula mencontohi sape...

pikio le bebetui kome para somi kalo nak kawen lagi

kalau somi nak tambah lagik satu, tetiba somi nak kena jadik cam nabi........tapi kalau sebaliknya jika somi yang tak berkeinginan nak pasang lagik satu...somi takmo gi disco... isterinya tak pakai tudung...... dan bila ditegur...dikatanya pula tak sporting dan tak mengikut peredaran masa lak9bab nih kalau tak macam nabi pun takper).....

pilot · Post time 10-10-2008 11:48 AM

igt senang ke nak poli...redha bukan terletak pada labuhnya tudung ataupun singkatnya skirt pompan...tp seketul daging kat dlm badan tu ha...lagi lama idup lagi banyak titik itamnya...bukan senang mau cuci

Ayang68 · Post time 10-10-2008 11:53 AM

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zanorba · Post time 10-10-2008 11:55 AM

Basicnya...dh si hb perlu pd pologami, then si hb la yg kena tunjukkn dulu cth2 kepimpinan tuk mengemudi 2 bahtera...mulakn dgn basicnya - eg solat lima waktu tu dijaga tuk diri sendiri dn ahli klrga sedia ada, then implemen kpd bakal yg ke2/ke3/ke4...

Pokok pangkal, kalau si hb pandai membawa diri menuju ke arah poli i.e perlu kpd poli, sy yakin pihak is3 akan berlembut hati..menurut & memberi kerjasama...

Ramai sbenarnya para is3 kt luar sana yg sanggup actly nk bermadu w/pun si suami kurang harta (i.e kurang mampu dr segi material)...selagi si suami pandai balance dgn kelebihan ilmu r/tangga dan amalan serta penghayatan agama, tak gitu para is3 sume?

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pilot · Post time 10-10-2008 11:55 AM

jadi gak ke laki akak nak kawan lagi...

manakautau · Post time 10-10-2008 11:55 AM

Originally posted by pilot at 10-10-2008 11:48 AM
igt senang ke nak poli...redha bukan terletak pada labuhnya tudung ataupun singkatnya skirt pompan...tp seketul daging kat dlm badan tu ha...lagi lama idup lagi banyak titik itamnya...bukan senan ...

Sebab itu lebih senang curang jer kan? Menipu isteri nih lagi kerja mudah dari bila dah poligami nanti kan? NAUZUBILLAH.

pilot · Post time 10-10-2008 11:57 AM

gitu le kekdahnya...curang takpe, ringan sket dari kena share katanya

zanorba · Post time 10-10-2008 11:59 AM

Nape lak payah kak?
Kan ke akak dh izinkn ke?

manakautau · Post time 10-10-2008 12:08 PM

Originally posted by pilot at 10-10-2008 11:57 AM
gitu le kekdahnya...curang takpe, ringan sket dari kena share katanya

TIDAK MELAKUKAN APA YANG TUHAN PERINTAHKAN LAGI PAYAH DARI MELAKUKAN APA YANG DITEGAH KOT.

ishak_mia · Post time 10-10-2008 01:33 PM

actually polygamy isnt easy. my grandpa had two wives, and 2 of my male cousins polygamy too. you can say the male  from my dad side (grandpa's) are prone to polygamous.but the reasons are different.
my grandpa married his second wife (widow of his own brother) on the basis of helping up when his brother died - nek da (how we called her) was yatim piatu and lost tempat bergantung, so tok ki married her WITH MY GRANDMA's BLESSSING. Nek was an amazing woman.

my cousins married their second wifes on the basis of having children ( tak dapat anak isteri pertama). but they tried their best to serve both wives the best they can.  Abang Zan, for example, has this fixed giliran,today 6pm to 6am  rumah isteri pertama, esok 6pm to 6am rumah isteri kedua,and so on so forth....and he bought a house for each of the wives. and a car for each of them too...

so far so good la...it has been 10 years,,,and I see the madus, tolerate each other, even thou they are not best friends...

and Tok Wa (my cousin's mother = my auntie) also receives both of her menantus well...kalau hari raya...hari ni menantu pertama, esok menantu kedua datang bertandang...he he he

my message is who are we to say haram to a halal thing...but again polygamy ini halal hanya bila boleh berlaku adil, ianya haram kepada ornag yang tak dapat berlaku adil. malah berdosa besar.

like what happened to my lady cousin yang jadi second wife. she should have chosen a better man, yang boleh dan mamopu  berlaku adil. I dont support p[olygamy in her case cos the hubband is extremely irresposnsible man, when kak sobah delivered their first baby and the next daym had her womb removed (barah rahim), the husband the jenguk2 muka pon! he only turned up when she habis pantang and luka operation dah sembuh.....teruk betul! BERDOSA BESAR suami yang mengabaikan mana-mana isteri!

maizana · Post time 10-10-2008 02:35 PM

Originally posted by aini_azura at 9-10-2008 11:15 PM
Saya telah lama hidup berpoligami. Tak usahlah saya buka cerita lama tersebut, sudah makan hati berulam jantung. Sehingga kini saya rasa tersinggung tetapi kerana saya memang sudah tidak ada temp ...

I rasa salah satu keperluan polligami adalah untuk mengelakkan maksiat berlaku. Nafsu.. tidak boleh dijangka, sukar untuk kita menghalang.. so kalau tiada poligami.. mungkin mereka akan melakukan secara haram.. tanpa nikah.

maizana · Post time 10-10-2008 02:49 PM

I tak pernah merasa hidup berpoligami. Tapi I dapat rasakan ianya pahit bagi isteri pertama.. dan mungkin juga pahit bagi isteri kedua dan seterusnya.

cinderella · Post time 10-10-2008 03:01 PM

As i mentioned earlier...i am not against polygamy as it was halal di sisi islam although i've not enc it at current.

Women don抰 want a macho guy who might protect them and also kill his own kids and her. Women mostly in the world do not have choice of partner supposedly in their interests. Btw, dont judge all women from what you see either they are isteri pertama, kedua or ketiga...

I could argue, with scientific proof, the mens instinctually want to have as many partners as possible in order the spread their genes, including the intelligence one, but are forceably prevented from doing this, at the same time not being educated or allowed to economically support themselves. But then, those first wives need to looks back on what have they done during their marriage...nagging, babbling, egocentrism n etc...

But sometimes, I cldnt argue anymore if the isteri pertama have done the most crappy NICEST things towards their husband and yet she received "sayang tak kurang apa2, it just that abang dah lama merasa yang putih melepak, kali ni nak pulak merasa yang hitam manis"..

and yes, it happens to one of my own acquintances and yet at 29, he already have 2 wives..:@ :@ :@ wtf