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mula2 buka thread...ingatkan TT ni yg buka thread "dilema suami"
dlm thread tu, wife confess ada crush dgn org lain..tp still living with the hb..
sbb katanya cuma main2 je.
donia..oh donia.{:2_6 ...
bezita60 Post at 28-12-2009 14:03 
ada ke bini main2? setau aku laki jek nak main2 neh..
*tuan rumah - kalo takde perbincangan selanjutnya pasal kerunsingan yg bermain difikiran ko neh, kunci solex sedia menanti.. bagi can utk ko dpt feedback smp esok.. sekian |
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minta dijauhkan la benda2 camni...takutnya dunia skrg...mcm bole jadi sbb manusia skrg idop berlandaskan nafsu.... |
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ada ke bini main2? setau aku laki jek nak main2 neh..
*tuan rumah - kalo takde perbincangan selanjutnya pasal kerunsingan yg bermain difikiran ko neh, kunci solex sedia menanti.. bagi can utk k ...
ParinAmat Post at 28-12-2009 15:16 
ada je..
zaman skrg sumer suda maju.. |
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ape punya benang ni? info taraks... just yg aku dpt extract.. takot ngan bini nanti beranak anak org len.. huhu.... ape punye kebimbangan lah ni.... TT, kalo ko kawen ngn bekas, GRO, PELACUR OR BOHSIA.. harus gak nak curiga... kalo kawen ngn pempuan baik2, tak harus nak curiga.... jgnla semai kebimbangan tah hape2 dlam ati.. susah woo nak hidup ngn tenang nanti... setiap masa dlm curiosity jer...
kalo tak caya sgt ngn bini, kasi ikat kat tiang rumah... ngan solek jgn bagi dia jalan2 or kuar2... kurung ajer dlm bilik... huhu... |
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alamak semuanya hentam aku ni, aku sebelum ni pernah dua orang ex aku curang ngn aku dia kalu setakat curang sikit2 xper ler ni curang sampai ke bilik tido, so aku cuma terpikir sok kalu nasib aku tetap sama ngn bini aku macam mana aku nak mengatasi masalah ni, aku bukan nak bukak pekung orang aku nak mintak tip bagi mengatasi masalah ni |
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aku nak tau kalu muka baby tu x ikut muka aku ikut muka mak dia ker, lepas tu aku kurang yakin la ngn pompuan zaman sekarang naik takut aku curang sana, curang sini, aku cuba ler perbaiki diri aku dalam semua aspek, tapi maklum ler manusia bukan sempurna, aku banyak kelemahan, manusia bole berubah dalam sekelip mata mengikut pengalaman aku ler. kadang2 sbb cinta lama bertaut kembali pun bole mendatangkan kecurangan. |
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so bagi ler aku tip bagi mengatasi masalah aku ni. sbb sekarang pun aku tgk pasagan aku curang ngn aku kata nak balik kampung siasat punya siasat rupany dia gi jumpa pakwe first love dia siap suruh saya jgn call dia waktu tu lepas tu semak e-mail dia ade menyebut pasal dah buat pregnancy test ler, lepas tu pakwe dia risau pasal benih dia kat pasangan aku ler tension aku. aku terlalu sayang pada pasangan aku. |
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Ohhh... gitu ceritanya. TT ada pengalaman sendiri ye. Cuba siasat betul2lah sejauhmana hbgn wife ngan lelaki itu. Apa puncanya....mesti boleh selesai.
Mmg nampak aib sgt klu isteri ada hbgn lg tapi mesti ada punca terjadi sedemikian. Ada kekurangan di mana2 pihak. Cubaselesaikan. Klu ex dulu pun pernah buat perkara yg sama...adakah TT sendiri bermasalah?.
Klu TT ok..then itu adalah dugaan untuk TT. Harap dpt selesaikan dgn baik dan moga beroleh kebahagiaan yg sebenar nanti... |
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1# ajakto
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm..aku lelaki,tak tahu apa yang perempuan akan jawab....tapi setahu aku..most women will keep it a secret and bury the past. |
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itu yang aku dig balik n jumpa perkara tersebut, kenapa dia betray cinta aku. |
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1# ajakto
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm..aku lelaki,tak tahu apa yang perempuan akan jawab....tapi setahu aku..most women will keep it a secret and bury the past.
nighunter71 Post at 28-12-2009 20:23 
belajar dari pengalaman ka |
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50# ajakto
uik............kata ko tak kawin lagi bro....
so apa yg ko dig? |
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51# carold
Taklah...........i belajar dengan membaca buku....macam ramai bujang bujangan kat sini...ekekekeke |
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52# nighunter71 ...nak tambah skit..ko dig pakai jari ker skop?ekekekekeke |
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Post Last Edit by mummyslove at 29-12-2009 01:10
1# ajakto
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm..aku lelaki,tak tahu apa yang perempuan akan jawab....tapi setahu aku..most women will keep it a secret and bury the past.
nighunter71 Post at 28-12-2009 20:23
not just women night but men do the same also.. aib nie terlalu besar utk ditanggung not just for the parents but most importantly the child. People hide it coz it shameful and also sbb sayangkan baby yg baru lahir... yes kita kerap kali ckp budak tu tak berdosa tak bersalah... masa dia baby kita ckp mcm tu mmg dia tak tau pape but what happens when he/she grows up... this is too big for anyone to carry let alone kanak2 tu yg tak tahu apa2 dan tak berdosa. It's a heavy burden night... That is why people choose to hide this kind of things.
And they later start anew... either clean from it... meaning they hide it or wash it all away.. just for them to know... or they carry those heavy burden until they gradually change to be a better person than who they were before. And hope people will be kind to them for the change they had done. Prejudice psl things like this will always be there.. and this is why people hide it. And it's not wrong to hide it too... even dalam Islam... ada larangan dari kita membuka aib kita pada org lain... apatah lg aib org.
Pernah terbaca kat mana entah... Allah telah menutup aib seseorang tentang hari semalam tetapi kejahilan org itu yg menyebabkan dia membuka aib dirinya sendiri... |
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Post Last Edit by mummyslove at 29-12-2009 01:43
so bagi ler aku tip bagi mengatasi masalah aku ni. sbb sekarang pun aku tgk pasagan aku curang ngn aku kata nak balik kampung siasat punya siasat rupany dia gi jumpa pakwe first love dia siap suruh sa ...
ajakto Post at 28-12-2009 18:55
i'm not sure if this is your latest problem.. but if it is then here goes la ye...
this things happen twice to you meaning maybe there is something wrong with the way you look for love and the way you handle it. Tp rasanya mende tu pun dah berlaku tak guna nak persoalkan balik... Base on apa yg mummy dah baca sini you ngan gf blm lg ada apa2 ikatan maksudnya belum bernikah dan most probably korang nie biasa ringan2 kot walopun tak terlanjur.. that's why dia blh jer nak ringan2 ngan pakwe lama dia smpi dah lebih2... just my hunch.. kalo salah maafkan mummy ye.. sbb mummy tak kenal adik... but normally this is the way it will all start.
and kalo betul you nie husband and wife ... maybe gak wife you nie maybe start meringan2 tp terlanjur... skrg nie you still sayang kat dia... and nak save your marriage. Jika you and wife dah sepakat nak teruskan dan dia blh tglkan bf dia terus dan insaf kemudian berubah ini lah yg sebaik-baiknya. Tp bg pihak awak pulak tidakkah kelahiran anak itu akan mengganggu hubungan you husband and wife in the future?If you yakin dpt tempuhi bersama your wife this time of hardship without ungkit mengungkit in the future then... well go on and raise the child as your own. Tp be sure utk tidak bin kan dia atas nama awak.
But most people and from experience org2 terdekat dgn mummy usually they give the baby to pasangan yg lain maybe saudara terdekat that they trust and really wanted a child. And lalui proses2 pengambilan anak angkat seperti procedure2 biasa yg lain. And sincerely kalo you and your wife could not find anyone who is willing to raise that baby do PM mummy coz i know of someone longing to raise a child but couldn't. Be sure that both you and your wife agree to this. For this is the best way to protect the child and also your marriage.
Menyerahkan anak tu kepada org lain bukan bermakna you guys don't love the baby enough... But it is becoz you love them that you want them to grow up far away from that dark past. Give them a life better for their future. This is just my thought base on my experience. What ever you decide is up to you and your wife. Perbanyakkanlah solat hajat dan istikharah supaya ditunjukan jalan penyelesaian utk masalah ini. For this is the time your wife needs you most. So be there for her. And try to open your heart to forgive her. It takes a big heart to forgive and another brave heart to apologize.
Tak leh nak tulis byk2 skrg nie sbb mata pun dah ngantuk sgt. Oh yes another thing.. be brave to tell the truth to the JPN perihal kelahiran anak yg baru lahir tu. Please2 if you are sure that baby is not yours janganlah bin kan dia atas nama you. Sbb maybe no one will know tp in the future you maybe akan menyebabkan masalah yg lebih besar dari segi Islam berkaitan nasab... dan sbgnya. Be sure dlm surat beranak anak tu nnt cuma ada nama ibu sahaja. Ok.
I wish you all the best. Be brave dan sabar dlm menangani masalah sesulit ini... handle with care. Good luck kay.. |
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so bagi ler aku tip bagi mengatasi masalah aku ni. sbb sekarang pun aku tgk pasagan aku curang ngn aku kata nak balik kampung siasat punya siasat rupany dia gi jumpa pakwe first love dia siap suruh sa ...
ajakto Post at 28-12-2009 18:55 
...kalau gf ko dah confirmed curang...sampai ke tahap dah serahkan body dia kat mamat lain...then...shes not a marriage material...so...let her go...
...sebelom ko sayang giler kat another person...sayang giler giler kat diri ko sendiri...jika ko sayang giler2 kat diri sendiri...then u will realise that u deserve someone much2 better than your gf yang curang nie...
...kalau for some reason ko very2 generous ngan keampunan ko and u gave her another chance...please bear in mind kemungkinan dia repeat this thing is higher...cos...shes not the type yang willing to stay committed to just one person...shes not the type yang kalau ada masalah akan cuba menyelesaikan masalah itu...sebaliknya...dia akan mencari jalan kluar yang mudah untuk melupakan masalah dia itu...
...ginilah bro...
...u mentioned that your previous gf pon pernah berlaku curang kat ko...and...this present gf pon berlaku curang jugak...i find it a bit strangelah that every women yang ko dated pasti akan berlaku curang terhadap ko...what did u do to them sehinggakan mereka berpaling tadah??...cos i dont think that it is just a coincident saja that both of your lovers chose to betray u...there must have been something yang u did that drive them into other men punya pelukan...this is something yang ko kena think and reflect on...muhasabah diri kata orang...
...whatever it is...even tho u are someone yang has many flaws...even tho u are not a perfect guy...u do not deserve to be treated as such...have more pride in yourself...perbaikilah diri ko mana2 yang patut...dekatkan diri padaNya...mintak Dia ketemukan jodoh yang baik buat ko...and when u got one...do treat her well...with love...respect and honour...insyaallah...dia akan stay with u for life... |
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Post Last Edit by mummyslove at 29-12-2009 09:47
so ajak there is two solution contradicting with one another... so choose wisely and keep to your choice... only you know what is best for you...
I answered your PM base on what you wanted to hear... sbb ko kata ko tak nak tglkan dia kan... and those solution i gave you have been practiced bkn hanya omong2 kosong... tp korang berdua kena betul2 berubah la utk sesuatu yg lebih baik... if ko tak PM aku memberitahu yg ko taknak pisah most probably aku juga akan ckp mcm blacky... but since ko kata ko dah kahwin and tak nak bercerai... so the solution above is what i suggest...
both solution kat atas tu ada pros and cons... so it is all up to you both.. but bear in mind my solution can only work kalo you guys sepakat to stay together and stick with it until the end... are you willing to go through it? |
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Ni memang soalan perangkap.... |
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itu yang aku dig balik n jumpa perkara tersebut, kenapa dia betray cinta aku.
ajakto Post at 28-12-2009 20:31
senang jek ajakto, dia tak cukup cintakan ko mcm ko cintakan dia.. ko jek yg duk syok lelebey, sedangkan gf ko best jek duk berprojek ngan ex dia.. tak brbaloi2 utk ko teruskan hubungan ni hokayy..
ada hikmah jadik camni.. syukurlah Allah dah tunjuk peel sebenar gf ko sebelum kawin.. |
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Post time 28-12-2009 03:16 PM
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